Amazing Sex & Relationship Educator – Reid Mihalko

To all of you who have known me for some time, I am sure it is always nice to get referrals to other Tantra Practitioners and teachers of who I highly recommend. Well, this teacher is one not to miss. This is a man of power, and if you need a little boost to your love life, or your relationship to your loved one, or your relationship to yourself, I highly suggest acting on this now! Reid is recently co-authoring with another amazing Dakini and friend of mine, Kamala Devi ( and he is one of the top Tantra Coaches of our time! He will also be teaching in San Francisco, but most of you who know me stay pretty local. If you are traveling and want to see him, please let me know and I’ll get the two of you in touch! see info below!
Blessings and Love, Asttarte

Sex and Relationship Educator, Co-creator of Cuddle Party and Speed-Flirting

cell: 917.207.4554
316 East 70th Street, Ste. 5RE • NY, NY 10021 •
Energetic Sex: From Mystical to Practical FREE Teleclass with Reid and Guest Sexperts –
Women Who Give Too Much Teleclass Series –
June 10: Six-Weeks To More Energetic Sex Teleclass
Group discounts available and a BONUS 60-minute coaching session with Reid inlucded in the course!

July 7th: Battling the 8-Armed Octopus of Jealousy!
4-Week TeleclassGroup discounts available and a BONUS 30-minute coaching session with Reid included in the course! Asttarte Deva

Psychic Sexual Healer

It stumbled upon me today that there is a deep connection between my sessions of Tantric Healing and that of being an empath. I don’t know if you know this, or perhaps don’t quite understand the depth of it, but I am an empath. Other words for an empath are intuitive or psychic. An empath is someone who feels others pains; by usually feeling the same exact pain in their own body as you do in yours.

Examples: If you have a headache, often I will feel a pulsing sensation in my head on or close to the area of your headache, or if you have a broken heart, I may feel a tingling sensation in my own heart, or if your legs are tight and cramping, I may feel a heavy weight and pressure on my legs while I am sitting close to you.

Before embarking on this intense path of tantra and sacred sexual healing, my focus was only on the intuitive healing side of this new age phenomenon of healing. However, I have chosen to open myself up to the more vulnerable energies of sexuality, and in this there are risks.

The risks of being in this work, as a Healer, is that I become a sponge and take on other people stresses, just by them being in my presence. I don’t have to do anything. I just sit with you, be with you, and can sense where your stress is, where your pain is, where your body is hurting, if your heart is hurting, if you have a headache, if your legs are cramping, if you are uncomfortable, and if you are going through turmoil in your personal life, or have had trauma in the past. I can even feel if you are anxious, stressed, or nervous being in my presence. However, the advantages of this is that I move into your space at the level I feel you are ready, and do not push you into doing anything you are not comfortable with. And also, will protect my space if I sense you are trying to dive into mine too quickly.

The point of all of this is that being an empath, and taking on others stresses and pains, I have to cleanse my energy quite often so that I can be a clear vessel of light, love and healing for the next person. I also cannot open myself up at the level some of you may want me to right away, because I feel where you are shut down, and guarded, and your ego or personality is perhaps trying to push through the stress you are feeling and unintentionally pretend it does not exist by releasing sexual tension.

I can only open as much as you are open, and if you are carrying pain or are armored, the best thing I can do for you is to help you open up where you are guarded so I can then get to the point of your intention in working with me, in a tantric and full body expansion of love and bliss. However, that love and bliss cannot be experienced until the weight on your shoulders and the energy imbalances and blocks are removed and cleansed away.

This involves tantric energy clearing practices, emotional release work, chakra balancing or other energy clearing practices I offer on beinginbliss, breathing and being present to the blocked energy, getting in touch with the pain or block you are feeling, and in a sense letting it breathe so it can release and move on. These practices can be done while in the presence of receiving a tantra session, or can be done on their own.

The more open, expansive, and connected you are to the divine and living a spiritual life, the deeper of a connection I can create with you, and hence, the more I will be able to support you and help you in your desires.

With love, light, and awareness!

Asttarte Shanti Shakti Bliss Asttarte Deva

Sexy Sexy Writing & Keeping in Touch!

What do all of you like to read about? Sexy writing, erotic experiences, spiritual writing, healing, tantra, or something else? When you come to my blog, what is it that inspires you? What turns you on, and what turns you off? I’d really love to know. Many of you who come back to my blog, come back for a reason. Some of you, don’t ever tell me that you are visiting me, and I’d love to know who you are.

There is a poll on the sidebar of this blog called What websites do you like most? Would you check it out?
There is a Followers list. Would you be so brave to include yourself? You can use an anonymous or screen name if it make you feel better. I’d love to keep up to date with my friends and clients, and perhaps we may help each other, inspire each other, and stay connected.

You all have meant so much to me. I’ve been able to stay in business because of you. I’ve been able to continue to do the work I love, stay on this path of healing and growth, travel to Sedona for the Conferences most years, and have been able to offer my love and healing on a consistent basis. The more I get to share, the more I get to share. As well as the more love that comes my way, the more love I can give to you. All of this means the world to me. Years ago, I worked in the Corporate world, and I knew then that lifestyle was not where I was supposed to be. Now, that I work from home, I can create the lifestyle that allows me to continue to grow to support you and I am now ready to open myself up to support you even more.

Don’t ever hesitate to contact me, write to me or say hello. I’m always here and would love to hear from you!

Blessings Always,

Asttarte Asttarte Deva

Looking For Volunteer Students

Since I am new to the teaching realm of large groups of people and it is my intention and desire to connect to others on a larger scale, I am looking for a small group of people who are willing to participate in a class setting for a few practice rounds until I announce this to the larger scale and look for Yoga Studios or places to rent out of to offer.

If anyone has a large enough space in their home or they know somewhere I could use space for free or at a low donation, please send me an email or call me. I am looking to have a small intimate group of people, about 7 – 10 tops, and those of you who feel safe and comfortable with me already. You may bring your friends or your wives. It is a great opportunity to introduce your partner into the work you have been doing with me, or have wanted to.

So, I am a newbie in being in front of groups of people, but a few familiar faces will make it that much easier!

Please call me or write. The times I would be available would be Thursday or Friday evenings, and also Wed evening. Donation for class could be $10 – $15 or at what you feel it is worth!

See for more information!

Namaste! Asttarte Deva

List of Classes & Events Coming Soon!

Tantra Yoga Classes

All classes will be taught in a group setting and locations will be announced as they are discovered.

The Power of the Breath & The Value of Hugging

This class is a gentle tantra class for beginners who wish to learn a new art of healing and a way of creating connection to the divine and to those in their lives. We will focus on the deep breathing taught in regular yoga class, discuss and explore the limits of boundaries and safety for your comfort level in hugging others in the class. Hugs are safe and create connection and healing in a way never taught before.

You will learn how to breathe while hugging and create awareness to where in your body you are armored, and where you are open. You may also learn where you are too open and where you are too closed. You will never have to do anything you don’t want to. And saying “No” is not a crime.

1 1/2 to 2 hour basic class – $20.00 donation

Yin Tantra Yoga

Yin Tantra is a combination of the benefits of Yin Yoga and the power of Tantra breathing practices enmeshed in one dynamic, fun filled and relaxing class. Most poses will be held on the floor on a yoga mat. Please bring a mat with you, in case the class is not offered in a yoga studio.

1 1/2 hour Yin Tantra – $15.00 donation

The Breath of Awakening – Advanced Tantra Yoga breathing practices.

The Breath of Awakening is a class for Advanced Students of Tantra or those who are ready to reclaim their power, expand and awaken their body to new levels of ecstasy, and transform their stress into a full body bliss experience.

1 1/2 to 2 hours of Ecstasy – $25.00 donation

Tantra Dance

We will come together with the intention of moving into a space of effortless and free form movement. You may roll around on the floor, shake your body in kundalini waves, make sounds of primal instincts, dance to the rhythm of the music and create connection in ecstasy of love. Let go of your limitations and expand your boundaries to a new level with Tantra Dance.

This gathering will be fully clothed. All connections of love will be through the eyes and brief touches as you move around in your dance. There will be drummers present and all I ask is that you bring a blanket(s), water and an open mind.

3 hours of Tantric Bliss Dance – $25.00 donation

Donations are to cover costs of rent.

Welcome to the beginning of my Tantra Classes.
I look forward to seeing you in class.


(I honor the divine in you as you honor the divine in me!)

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Pagan Polyamory Healing Festival

I just returned home from a powerful Sex Positive Polyamory & Healing Festival. I arrived after all the workshops and classes were over and it was still amazing. It was a full fledged top of the line everything included Sex Positive event, from BDSM to the simple and gentle practices of Reiki or Erotic Writing, and Cuddle Parties. Check out the site with the list of events: and
This was my first time attending this event and I’ll be sure to make it there another time. Since I am probably not going to make my bi-yearly Community in Sedona this May, I wanted to make it up with something similar, however, this was in the same line of energies it was a totally different experience. I had never gone to something where there were couples making love naked in the middle of the lawn while people were walking around casually about the area nude or in very strange clothing. Just as an observer it was quite unique and almost awkward, however, since I’ve been in the Tantra community scene for several years and have known of these happenings, nothing can scare me at this point. There was this one girl called the Condom Fairy and she walked around in multi colored socks up to her knees with short black boots, wearing a black mini skirt and topless.

I loved the event where there was a Sacred Ritual performed where we went over isues that arrive in relationships and how all people in a relationship have walls that need to be cleansed and that we all need to do our work. We created sacred space and cast a cirlce to hold the erngy together as one. Then we did a breathing exercise in a cirlce holding hands, to awaken the sexual energy in our bodies, and in a group of almost 100 people making howls and sounds of ecstacy and pleasure it was quite a site and joy to witness and be a part of. Afterwards we did what they called a spiral dance. Everyone held hands and spiraled closer inside the circle to allow everyone to make eye contact and move sidewayds causing the circle to get tigher and going deeper in the middle. As we were doing this I held hands next to the organizer of the event and the very open and vibrant woman she was, we both continued the howling and breathing in our tantric breath until she and I were the only ones out of the whole group howling and making deep sounds of moans. We caused a snowball effect and everyone in the circle started following us, until she got tired and I was the only one who maintained the deepe breathing and howls and ahhhh’s outwards as well as releasing pent up energies, stresses and sadness. I released my frustration for Elie walking away, sadness for having to make this action when my heart has not wanted to, and moved to a place of deeper peace in knowing everything is going to be ok.

I connected with old friends I hadn’t seen since before I had my baby, received energy work, ate good food, cuddled a bunch with different people and was acknowledged and given the space and respect I needed to open once again. I met a new lover and connected with someone close by who carries the energy of a Daka, and for that I am truly grateful! I received a Psychic Reading and got confirmation to not wait to teach my Tantra Classes later this summer, but to start now, and make it happen to create the Tantra Community here I have been wanting for years. She affirmed that I already have plenty of structure in my life and to let go of the contents page or the title of my book, and just to write…from the middle. So, I am going to take her advice and not create an order to the creativity, but just let it flow! I then later cuddled with her too, and connected to the sweet presence of a lady. Yes, we just cuddled, a sensual cuddle, but a cuddle none the less, and it stirred up inside me exactly what I needed! Being a single mom, a Dakini, having a Healing Practice and little time to myself, it is imperative that I make the time to have a personal life for myself, and going to this event was the start of something amazing!

Check out my classes that will be offered at

Love to everyone!
Asttarte Asttarte Deva