Forgiveness & Acceptance

Forgiveness & Acceptance

forgiveness and acceptanceI heard a story today of a woman who shared her experience with her ex-husband. She had been dealing with a custody battle for years and came to feel as though none of her inputs, feelings, or concerns were given any consideration. She had an agreement set up with her ex-husband on the days he would be with her children and the days she would be with her children.

The holidays are coming and she had said, “I don’t have a good experience with the holidays and I always look forward to when they are over.” Her ex-husband knew she was to spend Thursday with her children, but he then asserted that he was going to take the children that day. Then he casually mentioned that he was also going to be taking the children to someone in his family on Saturday, when Saturday was also a day scheduled for her to be with her children.

It was a situation I could not do anything about, other than listen. And, as I heard her speak, I heard more and more of my own situation that I USED TO have, that I now NO LONGER have. I wanted to offer her my suggestions and perhaps a new viewpoint that might help her. She sort of was playing the victim role and didn’t seem to realize how she was being responsible in the situation. She was blaming, acting entitled, was judging and holding onto the pattern of this relationship and how it had been going on for years.

If I could put my two sense into this situation for this woman, I would ask her to consider how she is being is responsible; if she can see how he feels, what she is still holding onto from the past, how she is blaming, judging, nitpicking and playing the role of the victim. She is playing the advocate for helping women who have gone through divorce, but it seems her heart is very much still hurting and she covers it up with a powerful confidence. My hope for her, is that she learns to forgive him, accepts the situation, learns to listen, and can one day surrender to this mans feelings. This may be the one thing that could bring peace to her family, and perhaps friendship between the two of them, instead of animosity!

Forgiveness and Acceptance

I heard a story today of a woman who shared her experience with her ex-husband. She had been dealing with a custody battle for years and came to feel as though none of her inputs, feelings, or concerns were given any consideration. She had an agreement set up with her ex-husband on the days he would be with her children and the days she would be with her children.

The holidays are coming and she had said, “I don’t have a good experience with the holidays and I always look forward to when they are over.” Her ex-husband knew she was to spend Thursday with her children, but he then asserted that he was going to take the children that day. Then he casually mentioned that he was also going to be taking the children to someone in his family on Saturday, when Saturday was also a day scheduled for her to be with her children.

It was a situation I could not do anything about, other than listen. And, as I heard her speak, I heard more and more of my own situation that I USED TO have, that I now NO LONGER have. I wanted to offer her my suggestions and perhaps a new viewpoint that might help her. She sort of was playing the victim role and didn’t seem to realize how she was being responsible in the situation. She was blaming, acting entitled, was judging and holding onto the pattern of this relationship and how it had been going on for years.

If I could put my two sense into this situation for this woman, I would ask her to consider how she is being is responsible; if she can see how he feels, what she is still holding onto from the past, how she is blaming, judging, nitpicking and playing the role of the victim. She is playing the advocate for helping women who have gone through divorce, but it seems her heart is very much still hurting and she covers it up with a powerful confidence. My hope for her, is that she learns to forgive him, accepts the situation, learns to listen, and can one day surrender to this mans feelings. This may be the one thing that could bring peace to her family, and perhaps friendship between the two of them, instead of animosity!

New Sessions, Welcome & New Creation!

Hello those new this site! Forgive me while this process is all its development! I am in training, presently, for Professional Coaching – as the foundation, which covers all areas of ones life, and as you can see my primary focus is Relationships, however, your Whole Life is part of that process! I’m still in the decision making process of how I want to market this: Relationship Coach who also offers Whole Life and Mentor Coaching, or Whole Life, Relationship & Mentor Coach all in one! How many people are drawn to each will give me my answer.

This includes all areas that would impact ones relationship ~ family, parenting, business, career, life, leadership, spirituality, health and wellness, intimacy and the conclusion is whole life and mentoring. I will be starting my path as an author through this process, not ending with one book, but the doorway to many!

I am looking for Sessions during this process. I am offering Sessions all done over the phone and in person! Don’t miss out  during this special time.

This site is in the works – Relationship & Life Coaching!

Bare with me while this site is still in its development stages. Sometimes it is best to let people know of a sites existence after it has been created and completed, but I thought I would let you know that this work now IS available, and I am offering free phone sessions while I’m in training! I need more practice for Coaching for your life, so please don’t hesitate to contact me for this! You will actually be helping me, while I get to help you too! The only thing it will cost either of us is time!

I’m still integrating how this will all go about, how to organize this, structure it, manage it, put it all together and the like.

My main focus is on Relationships and Intimacy, as this has been my area of expertise for 6 years now. And, prior to this I studied and practiced many healing modalities that dealt with the whole self, so I don’t want you to think that I stop with relationships. In fact, sometimes you have to deal with all the other areas of your life BEFORE the relationship you desire or are in actually works. As well as, when you deal with the people in your life that you are the closest to, your loved ones (family/friends and especially your most significant relationship), all the other areas of your life improve right along with it!

As you know, I LOVE writing, and I LOVE creating sites, blogs, etc; not that I want to do this for a career or anything, but it does come very easy to me. It could be from all those years working in the corporate world, as a Receptionist, Office Manager or Administrative Assistant. It was not my passion, but I was good at many elements of it and it certainly has helped me with my own business! Or, it could have been from those early years back in the late 80s when I taught myself how to type on an old fashioned type-writer or the early 90s with that wonderful gift from my uncle who gave me an electric typewriter (that was the in thing before computers).

My point is, I love helping people, and I want you to know that whatever you are dealing with, I would love to help you, talk to you, or support you!

You are a very important human being, and just because you might be dealing with something other than a relationship, it doesn’t mean that coaching can’t help you. In fact, most Relationship Coaches have to have the foundation of professional coaching and life coaching under their belt before they can take the training of Relationship Coaching, so they all are relevant! And, I will be taking a Mentor Training at the end of January which will in fact be the catalyst for covering all aspects of Coaching ~ your whole life matters, and so do your relationships with the people you care about the most; especially the relationship with yourself!

However, if you do take a peek at this, just be forewarned, this is only the beginnings of something, and may be deleted if I find I can put those elements on here!

Blessed Be!