Are you calling your friends asking for advice?
Have you seduced him or her on multiple occasions with little response or wake up from them?
Are you tired of rejection?
Do they always have excuses and are NEVER in the mood?
Perhaps there’s another reason they are shut down. Perhaps there are deeper core issues that need to be dealt with. You love them, he/she loves you, but the little amount of fondling, caressing or stroking of your hair is getting old. You want some connection. You want someone to love you deeply. You want a tantric partner; not just some 10 or 15 minute quickie. Where is he (she)?
You try playing with your toys, you go out with the girls (or the guys), you are ALWAYS in the mood and he just drops dead when he comes home.