What do you do when a surge of anger shows up in front of you? How do you deal with it? When you are about to meet with someone you love, do you take your anger out on the person in front of you, or do you realize the truth of what is showing up, your reaction, your mirror, and the emotions that are choosing to be present for you right now?
Anger is a strong emotion; as strong as love, and as strong as the desire for sex. When it is unacknowledged, it can linger inside, and then someone who you are usually close to often will trigger it to the surface again. This can be very painful; especially to the relationship that is so near and dear to your heart. At first it may appear as though it is the other person to blame; they said something to upset you, perhaps they were insensitive to your feelings, and maybe they even pushed more buttons that made your anger rise to a very uncomfortable level.
When looking at anger from a spiritual perspective, it is a natural emotion. It is something that usually shows up because something in your body is out of balance, whether that is your diet, or you did something recently that brought your energetic and vibration to a higher level where what was going on inside needed to match up with the frequency your spiritual body was feeling. Or an event occurred recently, and you may have felt at first that you had no emotion to it; that you could handle it, or it had no impact on you. However, hours, or days later your body started releasing the powerful emotion of anger, in order to deal with what occurred for you only a short time before.
When anger shows up, it is trying to teach you something. There is a lesson behind the anger, and it is not helpful to judge the anger; that there is anything wrong with you because you have anger, but rather look at the anger as your teacher. Listen to it. What does it want to tell you? What is it you are not listening to? What is it you need to learn? It may be a good time to journal and write about your feelings, or talk to someone you trust.
When someone else has anger, how you deal with it teaches you about your own anger. It is always easier to blame someone else for your anger, but when it originally came from another, you can learn about yourself in how you respond. However, in dealing with your own anger, try not to suppress it, or do things to avoid it, or make it another persons fault. The anger is coming from you. It is just an energy that needs to move through you, and in the process, it will take as long as it needs to take. Creating it as a healing tool, and working with the anger as something to cherish and love will allow the anger to move.
Feel free to ask for a Spiritual Relationship Coaching Session, or, try for yourself one of these paths the next time you find yourself experiencing anger:
- Kundalini Breathwork Practices/Pranayama
- Shamanic Breathing
- Deep Breathing Meditation
- Candle Meditation
- Talking to a therapist, Healer or close friend
- Energy Healing Modalities you can do on yourself, such as EFT, BSFF, Matrix Energetics, & more!
- Bach Flower Remedies
- Essential Oils/Aromatherapy
- Jogging, or other Exercise
- Going into the Woods
- Getting a Massage
- Practice Looking within to see your reaction, and notice in your body where you are feeling the most energy/response/sensation, and breathing into it, while placing your hands there, and start “talking” to the sensation and ask what it needs.
- Taking a nice warm bath
- Practice Shamanic Ritual/Prayer/other Spiritual practices
Anger is a VERY powerful emotion, and when you don’t know what to do with it, it can often take you over, and in a sense “control” you. Instead of letting anger control you, why don’t you next try to take control of “it”, and create a new relationship with your emotion of anger and allow it to help you, heal you, and guide you on your journey!