The Dominant Woman

The Dominant WomanHey guys, Are you tired of being bossed around and controlled by your wife (or girlfriend)? Do you have to live a secret life in order to maintain some sense of control and sanity? Do you feel scared she’s going to catch you in the act, for making secret phone calls to someone you like or have an interest in? Do you have to maintain a level of privacy and secrecy in order to keep your head on straight and make sure you’re head will not be CHOPPED off when you walk home or come back into her arms? What would happen if you did get caught? Would she go to the drastic measures of divorce or a break up, just because you wanted to live a normal healthy life, and express yourself with someone who wants to listen?

This is the trap many relationships live in today. One feels unheard, misunderstood; the other wants to maintain control, power and dominance and the two have to keep secrets, lies and shut out the truth from the other. Jealousy is born, possessiveness and control and a war for authority and dominance.  What usually happens to relationships that are living in this reality, this lie, and have to pretend they are something they are not? Often, over time, they separate, they divorce or break up, and many times shutting out the other completely from their lives with little room for resolution or healing.


Probably if the truth came out today, the worse that could happen would be separation; the best, a best friend again, someone you could feel close to, safe with, and a deeper love than before.
on or healing. What would happen if the truth came out? Or, even better, if the couple were honest with their needs, wants and desires before any problems arose?

When a woman shows up with her fierce rage about her man “jeopardizing” their relationship for his own self worth and personal fulfillment, a man shuts down. He pulls back and creates more separation. The woman feels she has a sense of control, and is keeping her man on her leash so he will not run away from her, and “they maintain their commitment”. However, do they really maintain their commitment, or is it under false pretenses? lies, secrets and dominance. Men DO NOT want to be dominated, just as much as women don’t. However, when a woman tries dominating her man, she is only pushing him away further and getting less and less over time the thing she actually wants; her man.  When women can let go of their jealously and control, and men can speak their truth, the world will be a happier place. All the secrets create a sort of conspiracy and controlled, repressed, and conservative relationship. The relationship is not free, it doesn’t feel open, it doesn’t feel good, and it gets harder and harder to stay! In order for a relationship to thrive, be your true self to your Beloved, and then you get to be your true self to you! It doesn’t get any better!

Namaste~

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

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Blessings old loves,

How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, 5 yr, 10 yr, 15 yr, 20th yr, 25th yr, 30th and so on. I hope everyone enjoyed their time with their familiar faces and created new beautiful memories.

I am grateful for the ease and peace my family and I now share together, the comfort and desire in staying together; without the drama or arguments that showed up in the past, and the love (and laughter) we all share. And,it was even more exciting to spend time with old high school graduates, to share who I am today, my passion, my love, my openness and acceptance, vibrant and new assertive way of being. Perhaps many never saw me that way before, and many recognized my beauty as something greater than when I was a child. I am feeling truly honored and grateful for this experience, and hope to keep growing more amazing, more vibrant and more powerful as the years go by!

I am writing to share my gratitude, my love and my continued desire to be of service in a healing way, in whatever way that looks like for you! Everyone needs something different, and I am happy to be a vessel to receive what is most important for you!

Many Blessings, Happy Holidays and Lots of Love,

Asttarte

Reunions and Family Holiday

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Family

Reunions and Family Holiday

Blessings old loves,

How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, 5 yr, 10 yr, 15 yr, 20th yr, 25th yr, 30th and so on. I hope everyone enjoyed their time with their familiar faces and created new beautiful memories.

I am grateful for the ease and peace my family and I now share together, the comfort and desire in staying together; without the drama or arguments that showed up in the past, and the love (and laughter) we all share. And,it was even more exciting to spend time with old high school graduates, to share who I am today, my passion, my love, my openness and acceptance, vibrant and new assertive way of being. Perhaps many never saw me that way before, and many recognized my beauty as something greater than when I was a child. I am feeling truly honored and grateful for this experience, and hope to keep growing more amazing, more vibrant and more powerful as the years go by!

I am writing to share my gratitude, my love and my continued desire to be of service in a healing way, in whatever way that looks like for you! Everyone needs something different, and I am happy to be a vessel to receive what is most important for you!

Many Blessings, Happy Holidays and Lots of Love,

Asttarte