Energy Manipulation and Control
Have you every had the experience where you went somewhere to do a kind deed, and then someone went from being helpful and giving to rude and controlling without a moment’s notice?
Today I had a strange experience, at a Hallmark, where I went to buy my mom a gift, and the woman at the register ended up calling the cops. I was a bit dumb-shocked to say the least. We were having a great conversation, about reiki, energy healing, yoga and the healing arts, and as we were making the transaction at the register, she told me the total amount for the starfish earrings I was getting was $9.49, and I handed her a twenty dollar bill, 4 ones and 49 cents. I said, “can you hand me back $15, a ten and a five?” She wasn’t paying attention at this point, and had given me 2 fives. She didn’t see that there was four ones and 49 cents on her counter. She said, “I already gave you two fives.” I looked at them at the counter, and said, “you just owe me another five.” Apparently, she had never taken the ones and change.
She looked at me and said, “I’m going to have to recount my money.” I said, “all you have to give me is a 5 and we’re good.” She still apparently was oblivious that the money on the counter was for her. Five minutes had gone by, and I’m still waiting. I had no idea she wanted to have me wait to count her entire til and have me standing there for over 10 or fifteen minutes. At this point, I was frustrated. I said, “mam, this doesn’t have to be complicated.”
She said, “If you interrupt me again, I’m calling the police.” I just looked at the counter, looked at her drawer, and looked at her. Obviously she was extremely angry, about something I didn’t know what. And, she wanted me to take some punishment of some kind of her lack of awareness of what I handed her, and the amount that was the difference. Saying, “it’s simple math” didn’t make her very happy. At some point I felt her control. I felt her anger, and she was adamant on doing it her way, and making me wrong for having a thought about it, and wanted to start over her counting process 2 or 3 or more times.
Perhaps if she said, “I didn’t count the additional change you gave me. The balance is worked out” it would have been fine. I would have gotten it, but she wanted to make a small situation into a really big one, and hold me there until she resolved her counting process several times. So ultimately the cop showed up. He was a super sweet, patient and nice man. He stood there watching me watch her. She had us both wait until she was done counting. By the time she was done, she said, “You owe me a dollar. My til is short one dollar.” By this time I wanted to be done, and said, “I’ll pay your dollar that you’re short, but I don’t owe you a dollar.” The officer handed her a dollar of his own, and said, “This is ridiculous. This shouldn’t be a big deal.” She felt satisfied, and while standing there I apologized for interrupting her while she was trying to count. She said sternly, “I accept your apology.”
I said, “Are we done?” She said “yes.” I went to leave and the officer followed me outside, and said, “Come talk to me.”
We went outside and walked to the side. He said, “Are you satisfied with how it ended?” And, I said, “I think she just got really confused, and she was really upset.” He said, “Yes, she turned something tiny into something huge. I hope you feel you were treated fair and you got complete.” I said “thank you, she was just super upset.”
She certainly gave me anxiety by using this manipulation tactic and projecting her anger outwards.
Not only was she upset. She was controlling and seriously angry. She had commented that because I’m a Life Coach, teach meditation, yoga and healing that I shouldn’t “act this way”. I think more she meant, “You shouldn’t make me upset when you are a Life Coach, Healer, Yoga Teacher, etc”. However, no one can control another person’s upset. If someone becomes controlling, demanding and angry, its on them. It came from within them. Energy transference from someone dominating you to make you scared, or manipulate to keep you in fear, or hold their “fangs on you”, is not the way to sort something out. She was not responsible on how she forgot what I handed her, and if she did remember, she was using control for another reason. It wasn’t nice. All she had to do was acknowledge the action, and acknowledge the error, but not everyone is willing to admit their mistakes. And they choose to put their mistakes on others. It’s sad to be at the receiving end of this, but I’m grateful the cop got it, and was apologetic and kind to me in the end!
Perhaps she was confused. Perhaps she was jealous. Perhaps she wanted to see if she could make me upset. And, perhaps she went from being open in one moment, to getting triggered, and has some hidden agenda to make people wait for her as her way of controlling them. And, if she doesn’t get what she wants in doing this, she feels out of control, and hence, needed to call the cops. I feel bad for her, but it doesn’t seem she is in the right profession and I feel privy to filing a complaint on her. Or, I too, can let it go. But I do hope she doesn’t treat other customers in the same way. No one deserves that!
Perhaps, too, she just needs some love, and some real healing herself!
Sending love out into the universe to all of those who need it!