Life On YOUR Terms

Inspire Me Today – Shann Vander Leek

Creating your life on your terms is really about allowing for grace through your next transition. ~ Shann Vander Leek

If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I’d want to pass along to others…

Imagine a life orchestrated to complement your natural rhythms. A life where your work is your play, and your play is your life. You deserve to be happy, healthy and wealthy. You have permission to create your life on your terms. So instead of putting up with mediocrity, waiting for a knock on the door or an invitation to change, take your life’s adventure to heart. The process begins here, now, today.

It’s time to get moving – to wake up, lift the veil of the status quo, and embrace the richness of a full life!

Out of all the “keys” to living a full life that I have discovered here, passion is probably the most important. If you were locked in a windowless room, passion would be the key that opens the door. When you are in the presence of a passionate person, the world falls away, and you are suddenly swept up in a tidal wave of possibility. The world is a playground for people who have the courage to follow their bliss. What are you passionate about?

Personal awareness is another important key. Awareness allows you to look for opportunities in your surroundings, but also to understand how your mind perceives opportunity. Be bold and direct in your awareness. Bumping around from one mindless task to the next is not acceptable. You are here to make something of your life, and your conscious choices will guide you with fulfilling your dreams.

Passion combined with awareness leads to opportunity, and the courage to take action with passion must be nourished from loving support of friends, family, coaches and mentors. You are who you surround yourself with.

To boldly go where no one else has gone before is a sexy idea. Sexier still is discovering mentors, explorers and visionaries who are willing to share the bold steps they have already taken along with the lessons they learned along the way. Often times all we ever have to do is explore our curiosity – comforted by the knowledge that we are no alone. What kind of people do you share your time with?

Trust is the third magical key. Trust in God, the Universe, your Higher Power, your gut, or your intuition. While having faith is not always an easy proposition, you simply must find the courage to believe in yourself. What do you believe in?

Act on your instincts and understand it is your personal responsibility for creating your life on your terms. Give yourself permission to have the moxie to explore several ideas and find the perfect fit. When you know and you honor who you are, you will be happy and free…

It is never too soon, nor too late to follow your passion.

Honoring Your Own Integrity

Sometimes when a situation arises, and you feel you need to take a stand for yourself, it may oppose other people’s viewpoints, opinions, or desires. However, if you stay firm to your own feelings and convictions, everything will fall into place out and you will have honored your own integrity and have stayed true to your view. This ultimately will lead you to self-satisfaction, honor with your heart and inner peace.
What happens when you don’t honor how you feel; when you let other people have their way, you keep your feelings to yourself, and when you suppress your needs and desires? This often leads to a loss of power; a lack of self-expression, a creative expression that gets lost, a sexual passion that gets forgotten, an opportunity that got missed, a need that didn’t get fulfilled and in some cases a routine for your child that got off schedule or the lack of self-care for yourself or others.
Tonight, I had an experience where I shared a need I felt was important to honor for my son; where it would have put his sleep schedule and evening routine off for an hour, he would not have gotten to bed until almost 11:30 at night and then would have put him into staying asleep in the morning until mid morning, totally altering the next days routines and schedule. I did not want to make my son have to sacrifice his own well-being, putting his schedule off and not getting his needs met, which ultimately would have made his father’s and my own needs and routine thrown off as well. I stood for what I felt, and requested his father find another ride or consider what his son would have to go through for him requesting to give him a ride, making his son sit in the car for an hour. So instead, he surrendered and took the train home.
Sometimes when we don’t honor how we feel, it actually can cause more upset than it would have if you just said what you felt. Giving away your power and forgetting yourself actually can create distance between people and does the opposite of what we all desire; experiencing love, being a family, & having commitment and ease between each other.
Speaking your truth, in the end is what actually gives you power, and when you hide behind someone else, there’s no you to be vivid, be real and be alive in this world!