Take Time to Love Him

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Do you make the time to be alone with your beloved husband or boyfriend (or girlfriend if you a lesbian)? Do you create quality time despite the fact that you have a job, or a family, or a career, are self employed, need to go grocery shopping, do the laundry, meet with your girlfriends and relax just to be with you, or any other number of reasons you would keep distant from the most important person in your life? And speaking of reasons, we ALL have plenty of reasons for being alone, for being single, for creating separation or distance from our loved ones, but we ALSO have many reasons for choosing to create connection with them as well.

Perhaps you’re angry at your partner, or ex, and you are now choosing to hold onto resentment because you don’t trust anymore, or you are wallowing in self pity, perhaps you’re blaming them for your problems, or all your friends cheer you on that he/she was the asshole! Whoohoo, let’s bash down our most precious partner to make us feel justified that we were right. That feels OH so good! BullS!!!! Do you really want to be putting down the one person you are more connected to in your heart? Does it truly make you feel good about yourself that you’re pulling away because you’re angry? And perhaps, just perhaps they aren’t even angry at you at all. It’s you who has the anger or resentment in your heart. And that truly does just eat away at you. You can be filled by the energy of anger for months and even years, and it surely will give you lots of energy to continue to put down any potential of connection or love, but the rewards are SO much greater when you can shift and transcend this energy into forgiveness and then love, and allow this same person you have deeply cared about all this time back into your heart!

When you take the time to love the person you LOVE, what will you receive:

  • A knowing of forgiveness and an opening in your heart
  • The potential of falling in love all over again!
  • Peace of mind, joy and serenity
  • bliss
  • the return of GREAT sex
  • more energy to do the things you WANT and need to do
  • understanding of each other on a greater level
  • a best friend
  • knowing yourself at a greater level
  • better sleep
  • a calm mind
  • a sense of ease and satisfaction
  • LOVE!!!!

When you take the time to love the most important person in your life, you’re not only giving him/her the greatest gift, you’re also giving it to yourself as it returns back to you MULTIPLIED!!!!

I honor and celebrate all who can fall in love over and over and over again, or those who want to experience this to know IT IS possible in any moment. It’s your choice! Always, always choose love! It’s the greatest gift of all! And right now in our world, love is the greatest treasure to behold and the gift that will allow us to continue to shine! WE are our future, and our future is NOW! Choose love, and love will choose you!

Blessings and love and Namaste~

Death, Prayer and Connecting to The Deceased

WHEREVER I GO
AND WHATEVER I SEE
IN MY HEART AND SOUL
YOU’LL ALWAYS BE WITH ME
~Ken Wilbur, Grace and Spirit
“Though the ordinary man looks upon death with dread and sadness, those who have gone before know it is a wondrous experience of peace and freedom.” 
~Paramahansa Yogananda

Death

When someone you love dies, it is significant shatter to your spirit. It may be overwhelming for some at first, or perhaps the shock doesn’t come until later, days or even years. But as I am being witness to myself in observing what death feels like to me, with someone I was very close with, I notice the desire to connect to my loved one in little reminders of her, and things that make me think of her. I feel that we do things to comfort our urge in being close to our loved one, and in doing so, it is part of our own healing process of the acceptance of their loss. Death is a huge subject, and all people handle it in their own way. Some people don’t feel a desire to connect to their loved one, but many like to connect to them in any way they can. When death happens, and in particular to a significant person in someone’s family; someone who was a leader to all those that followed, it can and will make a huge difference in how the rest of the family relate to one another, and hold gatherings that they always had organized in their deceased loved one’s honor.

I can foresee the future of my own family, having perhaps resistance to doing things any differently since the tradition stayed consistent for many years during our grandmothers later years when she was no longer able to go to places to celebrate, and we all gathered where she was, to support her in being a part of the family, and doing things together; including her, but sacrificing what might be more fun to everyone else since she could hardly walk. On some level, we let her lead our events because of this, and compromised our own needs or desires, and even though now we might be able to finally get out there and expand our horizons, we just might continue doing the same thing we have always done, as change might be hard for anyone to grieve the loss of the one they love; and in particular a grandmother who lived nearly a century.

“Our real self, the soul, is immortal. We may sleep for a little while while in that change called death, but we can never be destroyed. We exist, and that existence is eternal. The wave comes to the shore, and then goes back to the sea; it is not lost. It becomes one with the ocean, or returns again in the form of another wave. (a reference to reincarnation). This body has come, and it will vanish; but the soul essence within it will never cease to exist. Nothing can terminate that eternal consciousness.”
~ Paramahansa Yogananda
“The word “death” is a great misnomer, for there is no death; when you are tired of life, you simply take off the overcoat of flesh and go back to the astral world.”
~Paramahansa Yogananda

Prayer

No matter what beliefs or religion you have, it is crucial to pray, and prayer alone has so much power and sacredness in it, but when you pray in the honor of your deceased loved one, it takes prayer, intention and your focus to a whole new level.

The meaning of the word prayer is: 1. A reverent petition made to a deity. 2. An act of praying. 3. A specially worded form of praying. 4. prayers. A religious observance in which praying predominates. 5. A fervent request. 6. The slightest chance.

In the act of praying, you are creating a new relationship with what it is you are praying for; whether you are praying the same thing over and over again, or recreating your vision, view or relationship to that which you are praying to, or praying for. Prayer alone creates magic! It creates a feeling of magic within oneself that anything is possible, and what it is you are praying to gets to experience you as the creator of your vision. The energy of your spirit multiplies into the universe and sends out the intention into the world, and as your intention is magnified and your heart goes out into what you are praying to, most of the time, the prayer is received and returned. Our thoughts have power in them, and our words, even more powerful. When we speak our words into the world, our words create a reality that match what it is we desire, what we believe and what we long for. Hence, when we speak words of love, loving things return to us. And, therefore, when we speak words of anger, vengeance or darkness, dark experiences often come to us. It is so crucial to put intention into ones words, and in the journey of healing, never to be intentional about causing harm to any other human being, but rather be intentional about how you are feeling, being honest, truthful and kind. What one wants may not always manifest, but when one speaks of ones desires with love, intention and power, you just never know what will happen. You may be gifted with a glorious surprise!

“The first thing that happens when we die, is what we believe will happen to us when we die.”
~Gretchen Vogel

Prayer and Connecting To Your Deceased Loved One


I’ve been reading this remarkable book called: Choices In The Afterlife; What We Can Do and Where We Can Go After Death, by: Gretchen Vogel, and it is extraordinary. I’m discovering that every personality, every human who passes onto the spirit world lives into the same personality that they had while they were living. Some who leave go onto their next journey and finally reconnect with the love of their life again, or have a reunion with their parents that were long gone before they died. In a way they are having a party on the astral realm, free from the limitations of their body, or the pain that existed in their limbs. Some of them choose to stay near by, watching over their loved ones who are still living; as a Guardian Angel of sorts, and others go up higher into the spirit world, making peace with the life they lived on earth, and prepare to move on to their next destination, and often times preparing to be reborn once again.

When someone first dies, I believe they stay on the Earth Realm for several weeks before they move onto their next place, and during those first few weeks after death, is the most sacred and significant time to pray to them, for they haven’t quite left the Earth yet, or in a sense, they are preparing to decide where they want to go next. Some beliefs feel as though if you pray to them too much, you are overpowering them with your will and keeping them back by staying near you. However, in the acceptance and grieving for both you and your deceased loved one, I believe it is important to pray to them; to let them know you love them, accept that they chose to move on, and give of your heart to them. This helps them to make the next decisions they need to make to prepare for their next work. Some, I feel, can choose to be angels, however, not constrained by the 3rd Dimension of the Earth, but living higher in the 4th Dimension and making themselves available to you upon your request. I believe they may stay this way for a short time or a very long time, and when they are ready to return to Earth, they will prepare themselves for coming into a new body. I believe while they are on the astral realm, they are in training so to speak, and whatever it is they choose to do on the astral realm is reflective of the same personality they had while on Earth; they may be stubborn, they may be lazy, or they may make quick decisions and transcend to the next realm yet again.

However you pray is your journey and your faith, but prayer alone to the one you love who has left you recently, or even some time ago, is very helpful to both you and your loved one. It creates healing that will support both of your journeys!

“I am still–and will always be—myself alone. but, as myself, I know, now, I am not alone.
~Timothy Findley, Inside Memory

Blessings to you, and to All!

Jen

Dedicated to my grandmother, who only passed a few days ago, June 1st, 2012, 7:45am.
I will always love you.
When Your Hunny Just DOESN'T Want To Have Sex

When Your Hunny Just DOESN'T Want To Have Sex

sexualfrustrationHave you tried everything in the book to get your hunny to make love to you?

Are you calling your friends asking for advice?

Have you seduced him or her on multiple occasions with little response or wake up from them?

Are you tired of rejection?

Do they always have excuses and are NEVER in the mood?

Perhaps there’s another reason they are shut down. Perhaps there are deeper core issues that need to be dealt with. You love them, he/she loves you, but the little amount of fondling, caressing or stroking of your hair is getting old. You want some connection. You want someone to love you deeply. You want a tantric partner; not just some 10 or 15 minute quickie. Where is he (she)?

You try playing with your toys, you go out with the girls (or the guys), you are ALWAYS in the mood and he just drops dead when he comes home.

Forgiveness & Acceptance

Forgiveness & Acceptance

forgiveness and acceptanceI heard a story today of a woman who shared her experience with her ex-husband. She had been dealing with a custody battle for years and came to feel as though none of her inputs, feelings, or concerns were given any consideration. She had an agreement set up with her ex-husband on the days he would be with her children and the days she would be with her children.

The holidays are coming and she had said, “I don’t have a good experience with the holidays and I always look forward to when they are over.” Her ex-husband knew she was to spend Thursday with her children, but he then asserted that he was going to take the children that day. Then he casually mentioned that he was also going to be taking the children to someone in his family on Saturday, when Saturday was also a day scheduled for her to be with her children.

It was a situation I could not do anything about, other than listen. And, as I heard her speak, I heard more and more of my own situation that I USED TO have, that I now NO LONGER have. I wanted to offer her my suggestions and perhaps a new viewpoint that might help her. She sort of was playing the victim role and didn’t seem to realize how she was being responsible in the situation. She was blaming, acting entitled, was judging and holding onto the pattern of this relationship and how it had been going on for years.

If I could put my two sense into this situation for this woman, I would ask her to consider how she is being is responsible; if she can see how he feels, what she is still holding onto from the past, how she is blaming, judging, nitpicking and playing the role of the victim. She is playing the advocate for helping women who have gone through divorce, but it seems her heart is very much still hurting and she covers it up with a powerful confidence. My hope for her, is that she learns to forgive him, accepts the situation, learns to listen, and can one day surrender to this mans feelings. This may be the one thing that could bring peace to her family, and perhaps friendship between the two of them, instead of animosity!