Sexual Frustration and Anger

Sexual Frustration and Anger

 

Sexual Frustration and Anger; it saddens me when this shows up, but in fact sexual energy and the emotion of anger all too often come together and in many ways are merged as though they are one thing. Many times anger comes before the sexual frustration, and in particular when a relationship ends and ones needs aren’t being met, sexual frustration and pent up sexual energy holds in passion. When this passion does not have an opportunity to be held, loved and supported, it often then turns into anger.

The energy of anger is so strong, many people can pick up on it from miles away, from a short or far distance and over the phone. If someone is not feeling fulfilled in their sexuality, perhaps solely just taking care of their own needs but missing out on the connection of another, anger can be the prevalent emotion one experiences.  This one emotion can be the predominant energy in ones being and take over every single interaction one has. If one has the desire to control, dominate and manipulate situations to their favor, and lacks the ability for sympathy, empathy, kindness, compromise, compassion or patience, anger may be the emotion hiding and controlling you.

Also, anger shows up when their is unresolved issues in the past, and perhaps the person is not yet ready to face the past, look in the mirror of how they are really feeling, and instead wants to project all their feelings towards everyone around them. The anger can be easily sorted out, processed and dealt with, but if someone is not willing to admit how they are feeling, cannot be honest with themselves or you, any amount of talking to them or convincing is wasted energy. You cannot convince anyone who cannot even be honest with themselves, nor does talking help you as the person who cares about them. The best thing often to do, is walk away, and let them come back later with their own discoveries, their own answers and admit to you their feelings or experience.

Doing any sort of healing in the sexual healing world, can stir up A LOT of dark feelings, and go to a very dark place. And when someone who is seeking healing in the sexual realm is not willing to do their inner work, it can be a very unsafe place for practitioner and seeker to go. It can be a very vulnerable place for both, and working together at this level must be met with an agreement, an understanding and a true willingness for the seeker to be the student, to learn, surrender to the teachings and open their heart to heal anything and everything that presents itself that is ready to come to the surface and heal.

Our culture, of 2014, in the United States is filled with many people who have a lot of dense, dark energy, a lot of fear and anger, AND a lot of mixed messages of what tantra means and even to the extent that people are guarded when it comes to healing themselves or judge themselves thinking they do not need healing when what they are doing is going by a misconception of what society has labeled the terms “healing”, or “therapy” or “counseling”. And, in fact, there is confusion with the term “tantra” itself. The term tantra, in fact is NOT meant to be a sexual word. Turning its meaning into sexuality has been adopted by the porn industry, and in fact, this has confused the consumer and the audience to its true meaning of yoga, healing and enlightenment.

Tantra all on its own, is a VERY powerful word. Sexuality, all on its own, is a very powerful word. And, anger, all on its own, is a very powerful word! Separating each word to define what each truly means, and help those who want healing to know what healing is, how it may help them, and how they have the power to walk into their own heart, to find love, beauty and joy!

This is my mission and this is my path! I love all of you!

Asttarte

Tantra and Intimacy

Tantra and Intimacy

Tantra and IntimacyYou’re in bed with your hunny, and she’s laying on her side, facing the other direction. You’re horny as a firecracker and you can’t seem to get anything to make her turn over and make love to you. You wish you could get some satisfaction and pleasure her and feel fulfilled yourself.

You had an argument earlier that day. In fact, you have many arguments many days and they seem to go on and on. Now that you think about it, this has been going on for months, maybe even years. But you’re still that horny little fire cracker you were when you first met. Your Sexual drive is as high as its ever been, but the love between the two of you is missing. You wish you could just make love and have it all go away, but that never seems to work. And, now you’re laying in bed, its late at night and you have the perfect opportunity to make love, and she isn’t into it. (or you aren’t).

When it comes to Tantra, anything will turn you on, but when it comes to intimacy, someone’s heart is broken and you don’t know why or how to mend it.

Schedule a Session in Relationship Coaching, and together, we as a Team, can discover what is in the way of having the intimacy you desire and turn that relationship around!

Once we’ve tackled the Relationship, then we can go to work on Tantra Training or Healing Sessions and have the Ultimate Relationship of YOUR DREAMS!!!!

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

Thanksgiving, Reunions and Going Deeper – Email Update

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Blessings old loves,

How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, 5 yr, 10 yr, 15 yr, 20th yr, 25th yr, 30th and so on. I hope everyone enjoyed their time with their familiar faces and created new beautiful memories.

I am grateful for the ease and peace my family and I now share together, the comfort and desire in staying together; without the drama or arguments that showed up in the past, and the love (and laughter) we all share. And,it was even more exciting to spend time with old high school graduates, to share who I am today, my passion, my love, my openness and acceptance, vibrant and new assertive way of being. Perhaps many never saw me that way before, and many recognized my beauty as something greater than when I was a child. I am feeling truly honored and grateful for this experience, and hope to keep growing more amazing, more vibrant and more powerful as the years go by!

I am writing to share my gratitude, my love and my continued desire to be of service in a healing way, in whatever way that looks like for you! Everyone needs something different, and I am happy to be a vessel to receive what is most important for you!

Many Blessings, Happy Holidays and Lots of Love,

Asttarte

Where Does Sexy Come From?

Where Does Sexy Come From?

Where Does Sexy Come From

Where Does Sexy Come From?

Sexy comes from nothing other than inside of you; your inner self, and that same self that reflects, contemplates, feels and thinks sometimes too much. Your thoughts create your reality ~ a phrase often said, and it is still the case with our own sexiness.

When you feel sexy, it shows in how you act, how you interact with others, how you walk, talk and present yourself in the world. Sexy is a way of being, rather than a way of doing; it just is. It is who you are.

Bringing Sexy Back

One way I like to bring sexy back is feeling powerful and in charge of my life. When we are in charge of things that matter to us, it certainly gives a feeling of being powerful, and in being powerful, our whole passion for life has the opportunity to be lit up!

The Difference Between Being Sexy & Being Sexual

Being sexy is a state of being, a way of being. It is a flavor for life, but being sexual is the act in taking charge of your sexiness and going out in the world, or in the case of having your loved one right there, your bedroom!

When you harness your sexy from within you, you can create anything in your life around you!

What To Do When Your Heart is Broken

What To Do When Your Heart is Broken

What to Do When Your Heart is Broken

What To Do When Your Heart is Broken

Are you someone who is feeling alone; maybe lost and afraid, maybe hurt and betrayed? Are you recently divorced or separated? Was it your choice or your ex-partners? Are you angry or are you sad? Sometimes we have to make big decisions that impact us on very profound levels, and sometimes those decisions affect our personal well-being, our health, our relationships with other people, our careers, our families, our reaction to stress, our ability to have full sleep each and every night and our regular social decisions.

 

 

Have you ever been through a serious break up? A divorce? A death of a close loved one? What do you do when these events take place?

 

How does it impact your life? Your diet? Your rest?Your relationships? Your career? Your family life? Your stress level? What do you do to improve these areas of your life when your balance is thrown off?

 

Do you reach out for help? Or do you deal with things alone?

 

Do you seek Holistic Therapies or do you suffer silently inside?

 

What do YOU do to handle your emotions? What do you do when you can’t sleep through the night? What do you do after you have an emotional breakdown? Do you self-medicate, or do you seek a professional?

 

 

When your heart is broken, it is often one of the most painful experiences in one’s life. Often people are afraid to share their true feelings to those closest to them. Many suffer quietly without reaching out for help, and some even go the extra mile to pretend as though everything is fine. Many want to be seen as strong and think emotions are a sign of weakness. Our culture has taught us that when you cry you are weak, and when you don’t cry you are strong. However, when in reality, when you let yourself cry during times of suffering, it is actually a sign of power and vulnerability; that you are in touch with your feelings and are not threatened by them. When you can express how you really feel, like children, you can feel the feelings and then move on. And, if the feelings come again, then you acknowledge them again, express them, and move on again. Eventually you will feel free to your full self-expression, you will feel your joy again, and your true self will shine through.

 

Sometimes we cannot access our true feelings. We’ve been so trained to hold everything inside that we can’t be like little children and just let the feelings out when they are there. In these cases, it is best to seek Alternative or Holistic Therapies and use the tools available to you to help you purge what’s hidden deep inside. Don’t hold onto the past. You then won’t be able to live into the future, and your past will ALWAYS be there to pull you back from your present.

 

 

Some Affirmations for Depression and to allow yourself to feel:

 

  • I am being taken care of.
  • I let go of my expectations.
  • I love myself for what I am going through.
  • I open my heart to love and the joys of life.
  • I am thankful for all that I have.

 

 

 

If your heart is broken, are you holding back from letting yourself feel all of your heart, or are you ready to let your heart be free?

 

 

In oneself lies the whole world, and if you know how to look and learn, the door is there and the key is in your hand. – J. Krishnamurti

 

Recommended Reading:

Coming Apart; Why Relationships End & How to Live through the Ending of Yours

by: Daphne Rose Kingma

 

Acupressure for Emotional Healing; A Self-Care Guide for Trauma, Stress and Common Emotional Imbalances

by: Michael Reed Gach, PhD and Beth Ann Henning, Dipl., ABT

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

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Now that we are moving into the depth of fall, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing more clothes, having more time outside, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. As I contemplate this season, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil, and energy drinks to green tea, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Coconut Oil and Olive Oil for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:
Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation
Hold compassion for others in your mind
Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:
Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)
Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms
Consider substituting out foods for better choices
Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices
Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:
Be more patient and understanding
Look at the situation from their point of view
Take a moment to breathe before responding
Consider new ways to interact
Offer a new solution
Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:
Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place
Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction
Deal with your own stress responsibly
Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking
Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)
Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner
Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:
Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic
Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out
Start a Journal
Go for a Daily Walk
Go to Yoga or Exercise
Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session
Meditate
Start or recommit to your own personal growth
Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).
Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences
Recommit to a Spiritual Practice
Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?
If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?
What are beliefs that are making you miserable?
Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?
Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?
What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?
What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?
The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?
If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?
What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

ganesh-mantraHere you will find the eclectic immersion of multiple modalities, and the options that make it fit right for you! Everyone wants something different, but even more every single person needs something very different and unique to their specific situation, circumstances, beliefs, conditioning, goals, energy patterns, emotions, and available energy to what they are open to and what they are ready for.

Welcome to my new blog, and welcome to my new vision of a balanced practice and creating a balanced human being; for every one!

Namaste~

The Healer Who Was Raped

The Healer Who Was Raped

The process of healing from a major trauma is a long journey to come clean in one’s spirit and soul, in taking back their true essence from prior to an event as significant as a rape. Having been a powerful Healer prior to my own adult rape, it is amazing to witness myself in peeling my own layers and the amazing unfoldment that occurs. My main work was as a Spiritual Healer, a Psychic Channel and Intuitive Energy Worker, and a Transformational Massage Therapist. I had become an Ordained Interfaith Minister and had raised my vibrational level to such a high degree it was VERY difficult for me to go into normal public locations without being bombarded by others energies afterwards and needing to spend countless hours or days cleansing myself. I had strong gifts of being an Empath, an Intuitive, a Clairaudient, Clairvoyant and Clairsentient. My gifts were enormous, and slowly over time they have been coming back; with a mission and a cause. Now, the clairvoyance is the strongest, as well as clairsentience, empathic gifts and intuitive gifts, however, the clairaudient gift is still developing to what it was before.

The first 2 years after the rape had happened, I noticed I moved into SUPER high nova sex drive and needed, craved and wanted sex all the time. It was as though this area of my body was an empty vessel and there was no energy able to come through in my spirit to fill myself. Although it had felt as though I was just super sensual and able to channel my kundalini to a peak. Perhaps this is true, but I see now that there perhaps was a black hole there and there was nothing coming in or going out, and in a sense my body needed the energies of others in order to heal that empty space. The 1st year after a rape, a human’s body, a woman in particular, is unable to feel the trauma in herself. It is as though it never happened and remains a void, however, the following year and especially the 3rd year after the soul has completely caught up with the event and the need and desire for comfort, support and nurturing is at an ultimate high to feel loved, supported and cared for and to help the emotions of the trauma leave and love to return. However, as a Dakini, and being a single mom, I did not get the support I needed to heal the trauma. I had to deal with it all on my own, heal it all on my own, and be a giver, nurturer to others at the same time. My comfort was in giving to others and this was my way of receiving some of the support I needed. However, it was never the depth that my spirit, heart or body truly needed, and a small hour or two was always just a tease and taste of what my body truly craved. It in a sense was running on an empty bucket.  Having a wounded father for my child, who was unable to have the ability for empathy to give for someone such as this made it almost impossible to heal. However, I AM a Warrior, and would not give up, for I knew who I was before, and being a Healer when this happened, I learned a great lesson: TO ALWAYS TRUST YOUR INTUITION even if others want to be with you, be with your energy and spend time with you. Sometimes when you are integrating from a powerful healing training, it is BEST to spend time alone, and truly integrate all the vibrational healing that one experienced, and giving in to others that “want” to spend time with you, may in fact harm you so much more. And for myself as a Spiritual Healer, I had to truly forgive myself for giving in to someone who harmed me, whom I had trusted. And, the same lesson showed up in my son’s father.

I spent the past few days with another amazing Healer, and he truly helped my yoni open, and shed its tears, for crying out the blame I had placed not on my rapist, or on my son’s father who was raping me energetically all this time, but I had placed the blame on myself for having chosen these individuals and trusting them when in truth they should not have been trusted. The forgiveness showed up as I received nurturing healing this past weekend, in my womb that normally would have been in pain for 2 weeks after having sexual contact, and this time my womb was pain free! My Beloved friend who shared intimacy with me, cared for me, gave me energy healing on my womb, and his light was SO strong that I was able to release the emotions that my yoni had armored inside itself, and forgave myself for choosing to “hang out” and give energy to my rapist and my son’s father; who truly had raped me energetically all these 6 years. Now, I can say that my choice was my choice, and in this I let it go, and can start to love myself as I truly need once again.

What’s next is to protect my energy, continue to clear it, wear crystals in my bra, around my neck, continue to sleep with them, work with other healers to cleanse my aura and spirit body at a profound level to raise my vibration to what it was before, and even higher, and go to healing retreats, spend time in union with other healers, and so much more! I will now protect myself at a greater level with clients, and be much more selective with whom I allow in Session with me one on one, and perhaps take to additional work in writing, Phone Life Coaching or email Coaching and Yoga! I will be completing my Credentials this fall and have been invited as a special Guest in India for a Healing Retreat. My intention is to be there, come high or come water, and allow the abundance to come! I am praying to Ma Durga for protection and working with a Sufi Mystic for continued cleansing as well. I am truly grateful for prayer, other Healers, and the allowing of true love and healing to come in!

Om Sri Durgaya Namah! 
Namaste~
Asttarte Deva ~ Sharananda Devi ~ Earth Goddess ~ Wood Tigress!
This IS a time of celebration!

AMEN

~ more to come…

The Power of Prayer – A Universal Practice

Whether you’re a Sufi, or a Seek, a Muslim, a Hindu, a Witch, a Buddha, a Shaman or a Christian, or something else, there IS power in prayer, no matter what your faith is.

Prayer is a practice that has power no matter what style someone is praying, or what tool they are using to pray, prayer in itself doesn’t require a religion, nor a tool to utilize while doing it. However, there is significance for some, to acquire a tool like prayer beads or mala beads, or candles or something else, to allow someone to have a focus in which to place their mind on the intention at hand. However, INTENTION, is all someone really needs. Anyone can be intentional, and it doesn’t require any specific prayer to a certain God, or angel or God or other in order to put focus on what someone wants, needs or is praying about.

Prayer in itself is magical. It can allow someone to have faith in an outcome, a belief to make something possible, and allows a shift in their energy to instead be about fear or failure, to instead be about trust, faith, acceptance and allowance.

Prayer puts your intention out into the universe and opens and expands your energy to let go of the desire and put it into the energy of the world. Prayer shifts your consciousness and surrenders your will into the world and the energy you are putting out their has more space to return back to you. When you keep your prayer inside, stay silent and hold the energy internally, you are leaving the prayer up to your own source; rather than allowing the WHOLE universe to help and assist you. The energy of the universe is ENORMOUS! Why not let the whole energy of the world assist you in your dreams!

No matter your faith, prayer creates miracles! And magic certainly DOES happen!

For those Who’ve been raped or Emotionally Wounded

I found these two sites to be of MOST importance. Many women who have these types of experiences, just deal with the consequences. Some have minimal experiences of sex because of it but truly want to connect more frequently and longer. Here is some information for the ladies, who need a little extra support!

Please also find the Source of this post is from:

http://www.vaginismus.com.sg/Treatment-of-Vaginismus.html and
http://eroscoaching.blogspot.com/

The Energy of Others

There are many people on this planet, and when a person is drawn into another person, the reasons are personal. They may have a deep need or desire to be close to another, however that other person may not have the same draw to be close to them. This can be frustrating to the person who is interested, attracted, feeling desire or need when they may not be receiving much feedback, a response or the same reaction to the person they are seeking.  They may make it their entire focus, or even feel as though they are making the most effort to connect to the other, and feel left drained, depleted or hurt that their efforts are making no impact on the response of the other. It can be sad when someone spends their entire life wasting away into another person that is really not giving them anything in return, or even a short period of their life. Many times they can be left feeling resentful or used, but the person that is at the other end, may feel no emotion, or very different emotion to the experience as a whole.
Often the person doing the seeking, has a specific goal in mind, and on a spiritual level, they are wanting something that they may be feeling that this other person has. The other person may have more confidence than them, or be happier, or more grounded and centered, or perhaps more financially abundant. Or perhaps this other person has a certain quality that the seeker is feeling is missing in them, or maybe even a gift they aren’t even using, but the seeker wishes they had it themselves because it would make a difference in their own life, goals, or dreams. The recipient of this seeker is only responding to the person doing the seeking; whether that is a response the seeker likes or not, they have a response. And their response is also very personal. No one person can make another do anything they want them to, whether they like it or not; everyone has a choice. 
The seeker feels the energy of the person they are pursuing, and like a sponge, their desire is to in a sense, consume this energy they are attracted to, and they feel fed by it. However, this could actually make the person being pursued very uncomfortable. They never agreed to giving to this person anything, nor do they have to if they choose not to, and energetically, when a seeker pursues too often, too intensely, and makes the other person feel needed, it can often push them away, or create a dynamic where they don’t allow themselves to get too close to this person. And, they may have kindness and care about the other persons feelings, but they don’t feel as though it is their responsibility to make them happy, and in truth, it is not. However, they may still care, even if they choose to create more space. 
The person seeking must actually find this energy in themselves, or find where in their self they are lacking, and remove what is in the way of bringing in the energy they really desire. The easy solution is to find the source of this energy in others, but when it creates imbalance in a relationship, or a need that takes them away from them-self, it is best to find it within, or if one cannot find it within and needs to go on a journey of self discovery to get there, the second best option is not to spread yourself too thin and put all your desires into one person, or one thing. When you finally have achieved the energy you desire, those you care for will respect you more for not having pressured them so much into giving you something that they never agreed to giving you in the first place; unless of course, an agreement had been made, then the relationship can be left intact, and perhaps a little imbalanced, but with agreement, you may get those energy desires you really want. 
The Anger that’s Eating You

The Anger that’s Eating You

What do you do when a surge of anger shows up in front of you? How do you deal with it? When you are about to meet with someone you love, do you take your anger out on the person in front of you, or do you realize the truth of what is showing up, your reaction, your mirror, and the emotions that are choosing to be present for you right now?

Anger is a strong emotion; as strong as love, and as strong as the desire for sex. When it is unacknowledged, it can linger inside, and then someone who you are usually close to often will trigger it to the surface again. This can be very painful; especially to the relationship that is so near and dear to your heart. At first it may appear as though it is the other person to blame; they said something to upset you, perhaps they were insensitive to your feelings, and maybe they even pushed more buttons that made your anger rise to a very uncomfortable level. 
When looking at anger from a spiritual perspective, it is a natural emotion. It is something that usually shows up because something in your body is out of balance, whether that is your diet, or you did something recently that brought your energetic and vibration to a higher level where what was going on inside needed to match up with the frequency your spiritual body was feeling. Or an event occurred recently, and you may have felt at first that you had no emotion to it; that you could handle it, or it had no impact on you. However, hours, or days later your body started releasing the powerful emotion of anger, in order to deal with what occurred for you only a short time before. 
When anger shows up, it is trying to teach you something. There is a lesson behind the anger, and it is not helpful to judge the anger; that there is anything wrong with you because you have anger, but rather look at the anger as your teacher. Listen to it. What does it want to tell you? What is it you are not listening to? What is it you need to learn? It may be a good time to journal and write about your feelings, or talk to someone you trust.
When someone else has anger, how you deal with it teaches you about your own anger. It is always easier to blame someone else for your anger, but when it originally came from another, you can learn about yourself in how you respond. However, in dealing with your own anger, try not to suppress it, or do things to avoid it, or make it another persons fault. The anger is coming from you. It is just an energy that needs to move through you, and in the process, it will take as long as it needs to take. Creating it as a healing tool, and working with the anger as something to cherish and love will allow the anger to move.

Feel free to ask for a Spiritual Relationship Coaching Session, or, try for yourself one of these paths the next time you find yourself experiencing anger:

  • Kundalini Breathwork Practices/Pranayama
  • Shamanic Breathing
  • Yoga
  • Deep Breathing Meditation
  • Reiki
  • Candle Meditation
  • Journaling
  • Talking to a therapist, Healer or close friend
  • Energy Healing Modalities you can do on yourself, such as EFT, BSFF, Matrix Energetics, & more!
  • Bach Flower Remedies
  • Essential Oils/Aromatherapy
  • Walking
  • Jogging, or other Exercise
  • Going into the Woods
  • Acupuncture
  • Getting a Massage
  • Affirmations
  • Practice Looking within to see your reaction, and notice in your body where you are feeling the most energy/response/sensation, and breathing into it, while placing your hands there, and start “talking” to the sensation and ask what it needs.
  • Taking a nice warm bath
  • Practice Shamanic Ritual/Prayer/other Spiritual practices
Anger is a VERY powerful emotion, and when you don’t know what to do with it, it can often take you over, and in a sense “control” you. Instead of letting anger control you, why don’t you next try to take control of “it”, and create a new relationship with your emotion of anger and allow it to help you, heal you, and guide you on your journey!
Much Love,
Jen
Men Who Act Like Boys

Men Who Act Like Boys

Women who are on the path to healing themselves at some point get to the place of realizing that they may be putting up with men who act like boys and need to put their foot down. A lot of women who are soft, overly kind and forgiving, and accepting and loving, at one point or another realize that this way of being with men in their lives, also has caused them to be attracted to those they can “take care of”, or “love the poison out of them”, and in some cases “control the men” into kind, responsible, loving beings. However, eventually, women realize that these men cannot and will not ever grow up with their help. They must figure out their own paths, their own healing journeys and stand up as men on their own. Many of them never will, and those who do, God Bless You!

To the women I see as sisters, I stand with you, and raise my arms up high, that it is time, we stand as women, as one, and affirm that we deserve to be treated as WOMEN, as Goddesses, and as divine creatures, and no longer accept irresponsible men, or men who need us to take care of them, but instead, men who can truly take care of us, and stand strong in their power as men, take root in themselves as warriors, and take on roles as successful business people, or workers, and lift their women up to the righteous beauties they are, and surrender to their women; rather than taking control, demeaning them, belittling them, and making the women in their lives feel worthless, powerless, and weak, but instead beautiful women who feel supported for being the true self they are.

Men who try to overpower you, control you to doing what they want, condemn you for having your own opinion, manipulate you to doing what they want, coerce you into their dreams, diminish anything that is important to you or anything you have to say, ridicule that your opinion matters, blame you for their problems, avoid the important conversations that get to the root of these things, punish you for not doing what they want, possess you and keep you all to themselves and in a sense owning you, and then expect and assume you will provide for them or take care of them, feel needy towards you, and then angry YOU don’t take care of them, are NOT men, they are BOYS, that need a good spanking, a little punishment, and some major distance so they really understand that they CANNOT act that way with you ever AGAIN!

I, as a woman, who has been putting up with a boy, understand the journey, and the struggle to leave this type of man, especially one you believed in so strongly that they would grow up, especially one who made promises after promises with nothing to show for, and only displayed anger, upset and distance that you didn’t do anything they wanted, take a stand that it is time to move on, ask for the help I need, and put an end to the cycle.

AHO, to all the Goddesses out there who join me!

Blessings of love, serenity and peace to all of you!

Asttarte

See also: http://mylovermybestfriend.wordpress.com/2012/04/19/when-men-act-like-boys/