Vulnerability into Pleasure

vulnerability into pleasureVulnerability into Pleasure

Many people think tantra is just a term and an excuse to be sexual and erotic.
That is the furthest from the truth of what tantra truly is.
The purpose of tantra is not to be erotic
But to be loved.
How is tantra a path to feel love, but not feel erotic?
The answer is, it’s both.
Safety and love must come before feeling sexual, period.
If someone tries to feel erotic before feeling safe and love,
they’re skipping too many steps ahead.
Go back a few steps, and you might end up where you want to be.
Maybe you don’t need to feel safe.
Maybe you don’t have a single bone of softness in you.
Maybe you can jump into the sexual, before the sensual.
There is a layer of vulnerability there, you are unwilling to see.
Consider every human has fragile emotions.
You might just be covering yours up with erotic energy.
Slow down a little bit, and you’ll feel love energy.
Give your partner a chance to catch up to your sexual energy,
and you’ll both be a match
And intimate love will never be the same.

Do you feel anxious, irritable or frustrated?
What is it you are not letting yourself feel?
What are the feelings that are hiding underneath the surface?
What emotions are you hiding from?
What feelings popped up in a moment, and then went away soon after?
The pop up feelings are a clue. Dig deeper.
Surrender to them. Breathe into them. Feel them.
Notice. Investigate. Become a detective to your own feelings.
Is it anger? Breathe into anger.
Is it sadness? Breathe into sadness.
It is regret? Breathe into regret.
Is it despair? Breathe into despair.
Is it joy? Breathe into joy.
Is it love? Breathe into love.
Any feeling you feel, and breathe into, will make the feeling bigger, and either move through your body and let go, or feel more love, more joy, and more pleasure as you breathe into them.
Breathing into anger, despair, regret, sadness is loving them, and they will surrender, breathe through you, drop into nothingness, and transform into pleasure.
Tantra is a path of healing.
What is it you are healing today?
What parts of yourself are you expanding?
How will you shift vulnerability into pleasure today?

No one is ever going to be the same energy level at exactly
the same time every time you desire it.
Someone is going to have to slow down and be patient for the other.
It’s never about forcing someone to meet you where you are,
But always about surrendering to meet them where they are.
Are you surrendering to your Beloved?
Are you making them feel safe, or threatened?
Are you putting frustration onto them, or love?
Can you go deeper into surrender with yourself?
With your lover?
It just might turn your frustration into bliss.
Don’t forget to breathe.
The breath is the key!
It is your vehicle. Your teacher. Your friend. Your lover.
Your life force. Your heart. A connection to your soul
Something SO much bigger than you.
It is your gift!
And you have it with you all the time.

Note: Read this again after meditating, and it will make more sense!

Love, Asttarte

Sacred Foot Massage

Sacred Foot MassageBubbles, warm water, and lavender oil await your longing feet to be touched, pampered and adored for an hour of intimate bliss and love! To be touched, and embraced with kindness opens up the heart, clears ones energy, and allows one to surrender into the experience of receiving; being nurtured, pampered, appreciated, respected and offered unconditional love.

I love watching someone melt, and relax in peace, knowing they are in safe arms, cared for, and can surrender their true feelings. It is fulfilling to give the gift of love, and be received with gratitude that they allowed you to help release their stresses, sadness, or anxiety, and opened their heart.

Sacred Foot Massage is much more than a massage. It is a full body experience of bliss, energy cleansing, pampering, and opening up to the greater gift of ones own heart, as the heart melts its fears, worries, concerns and stresses, and can relax into the unknown, as though time was nonexistent. A true healing experience in formed, and with delight and trust, sometimes ones heart opens even greater and tears of love release from the body, as the stress leaves and changes form.

The opposite of stress and anxiety is bliss. As the body shifts the stress, it opens up to a kundalini wave of energy flowing that takes over and manifests as bliss. Bliss is a full body feeling of pleasure, however, pleasure does not necessarily mean sexual. It can mean a spiritual cleansing of ones own energy center. In many cases, however, orgasm manifests, and takes over inside and outside, as deeper breaths rise, energy expands and love abounds!

Sacred Foot Massage includes a consultation/coaching part of the session, discussion of current or recent issues, blocks and obstacles, and desires of where to arrive/goals to achieve. Then the session includes a hand to the heart, guided deep breathing, and then getting ready to soak the feet in a tub of warm bubbly water. Then massage is experienced on one foot at a time, dripping water to the rest of the leg, and massaging the rest of the leg. Then the other foot and leg is done. Often a blanket will rest over the upper part of the body, with a pillow behind the persons head and room to stretch out as they relax deeper. After the feet are done, deeper massing into the thighs is experienced, and then more of a sensual nature massage takes form. As the person surrenders they may experience full body orgasm, and as they come to rest, I may rest my hand on their heart again, or put my arm around them to allow them to surrender into the bliss and love just received. Sometimes it takes a moment to get grounded and integrate from this experience, so I will sit with them and hold them until they feel settled and ready to get up.

This is an example of one of the Spiritual Tantra Sessions I offer. There are many other examples.

Much Love and Blessings,

Asttarte

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

How can you feel passionate and sexy when you’re sad? How can you open up to your sexuality when you are grieving a loved one who died, or a family member of yours is very ill or hurt? How can you feel sexual when you and a partner recently broke up?

Opening up to your sexual essence is nearly impossible when major life events show up. Even one of these events can take someone down a downward spiral for months, but all of them at once seems like a Tsunami of change and where something major is happening to teach one a lesson, or to help grow towards greater enlightenment. I am talking about my personal life, and using it to help others. One of my dearest and best friends passed away recently, and her viewing was in fact on my birthday this year.  It blew me away to realize how someone so young could move on. Her health was suffering, and even though she was much younger than me, she struggled to get to the source of her pain. She had a history of trauma and I spent many years trying to help her. My lesson in my relationship with her, is the same lesson in the bigger picture of all of these events (marriage ending, her death and a loved one getting severely hurt). The lesson is, I can’t heal everyone! As much as I want to help people, and perhaps be their hero, I can’t help all. And, I deeply tried to help her, but she rejected me year after year. The more I tried, it seemed the more she pushed me away. It’s amazing that right before her heart stopped, weeks prior she finally reached out to me, and asked for guidance on her spiritual development. I waited for over 15 years for her to be interested. But then it was too late. At 33, she moved on, with a beating heart that stopped and her breath became silent. Perhaps it was too much for her to try to heal in her body, and her personality would not allow it. Now, she can heal on the spirit realm, and perhaps in a new body and a new life, she can heal this life.

The end of a relationship also takes a toll. It’s like a death unto itself. You have to interact with that person in a whole new way.  Grieving someone that is still living is a challenge alone. You wonder why things couldn’t work out. You wonder why they refused to heal, or were unwilling to admit their own responsibility in their own choices. You wonder why they project all their anger and blame of things they did, onto you. You can question it over and over again, but mental illness sometimes cannot be figured out. And, when the other person chooses not to heal or get help, the only thing left is to grieve. Being their friend is a challenge, because you don’t know when and if they’ll try to blame you for their own feelings again. It was such a challenge in walking away this time, that I decided to write about it. And perhaps, write about the struggle. And, maybe it could help others who loved someone with a mental illness. It’s NOT your fault! It’s not my fault. My heart is as big as The Divine Mother! But knowledge and wisdom in how to deal with someone like this, helps to end the pattern of being pulled back in, when they put on a beautiful act of being nice again. I’ll consider writing more of the story of this. Perhaps it could be a short story. However, the lesson again, is “I cannot help so much that I sacrifice my life away!”

And to top it off, my father fell and hit his head! He had a concussion with delirium. He had memory loss, but only half the time. The status is, is that he’s getting better! I am deeply grateful he is getting better and I’ll find out more tomorrow how much better he is. But at the height of his fall, I was there. I visited him for multiple days, and spent 5 or 6 hours a day just sitting with him, waiting until he woke up, helping him eat, and talking and laughing. It was very healing to be with him in this way, and he would say often, “why are you crying? I’m ok!” But I didn’t feel like he was ok. I said, “But you’re different!” And he said, “But my heart is the same!” And I smiled and said, “you are right!” It’s amazing how alike we are, and how much we get along; 2 Aries and my whole life I had no idea how similar we are until now. I am grateful to still have more years and time to spend with him, and I will continue to grow in the acceptance and understanding, that I am NOT superwoman, and I cannot save and fix everyone, but a part of me, will still always try!

So, the point of this writing, Sex and Sadness….how can one be in touch with their sexuality when they are feeling sadness? Well, simply, they cannot! One has to go through the sadness, to get to the sexiness. Many people try to ignore their feelings, their sadness, their anger, or disappointment, etc and go straight to the sexual feelings. And, then they wonder why nothing sexual is happening! Well, the answer is right in front of you! You have to feel all of your feelings, the happy ones AND the sad ones in order to feel to juicy ones! Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring them, then they only get suppressed deeper. The more you can feel your painful feelings, the more bliss and joy you can feel when they move through you and release out of your body! And, the body WILL tell you when painful feelings are there! It ALWAYS will, so you might as well go through them, and not try jumping over them! There is a much greater reward in the end when you do!

“Instead of getting on medication, for stresses, just FEEL your feelings! Then all that stress and heavy feelings just simply go away! But you have to feel deeply, and at your core, or it will only come back until you finally face yourself again!”

Awakening Bliss

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Awakening Bliss

“In order to access your full potential of bliss,
you have to clear the muck that’s in the way!

We are all Spiritual beings living in a physical body. Our spiritual body is mostly unknown to people on the planet; except those who are conscious and on the path. It is my pleasure and joy to work with those who are on the path, and to those who are not, to learn the power and value in getting started.

I offer you many techniques and practices on this website that took me many years to learn and practice, and many more to master. It is the utmost importance to allow the spirit to be of a significant factor in your journey of reflection, your recovery to healing, your awakening to the divine, and your passionate desire to connect to others.

Bliss is not something that can be achieved through simple pleasures of the ego, the mind or the body. Bliss is achieved through connecting to something much bigger than we all are – the metaphysical, transcendental, ethereal and energetic part of ourselves that lies not only inside of us, but all around us. Achieving bliss is a state of mind through conscious efforts in connecting to our spiritual selves.

Bliss can be achieved through the body, but there are always energetic blocks that keep us from fully expanding and opening into a higher vibration that our divine being is craving for us to embrace. When we can merge the physical body with the spiritual body, we can then achieve a full body state of ecstatic bliss.

The Breath to Stay IN the Body

The Breath to Stay in the BodyThe breath to stay in the body is a very powerful tool. Most people don’t know how powerful it is until they embark on a Yoga path, start doing Breathwork, receive energy healing sessions, or begin the Advanced practices of Tantra.

Often when someone is receiving a massage, it is not the massage that is completely relaxing them, it is the massage that creates a stimulation in the body to remind the person to come into the body and to take deeper breaths. Ultimately, from taking these deeper breaths, this then is what causes the person to be able to have a fully relaxing and blissful experience during the massage. However, some people who receive massage, may have the most skilled and advanced practitioner working on them, but when they do not breathe properly, are holding their breath, or are not guided in breathing deeply when they may need to, their experience can be rather dull and they may think it’s the practitioner who was not very good, when in fact it was in their own creation of not using their breath to its maximum potential.

When I work in Session with my private clients, I often remind my client to breath deeply. The breath can be a means of escaping the body. Many times when someone is holding their breath, forgets to breath, or falls fast into a deep relaxation when we are doing powerful breathing exercises to raise the Kundalini, or to allow for a deeper sensation of pleasure, this means that there is something blocking the person from going deeper into the practice. When someone slips away from the breath, it is often a slipping away and out of the body as well. This happens when there is a deep emotion, or issue that is ready to come to the surface and wants to be released, but the individual does not know how to deal with it, and instead reacts by suppressing it further and pushing it down, by not breathing or breathing shallow.

By escaping their own body, they are also escaping the fear or pain of what wants to come up to be released, energetically moved or cleared for them. This fear or pain often is unknown of. It doesn’t necessarily need to be something you even know what it is, but when a numbness in the body, or detachment from the body by slipping into shallow breathing happens, this is the exact time you need to be conscious of your breath and begin to breath with more awareness and attention to actively breathe deeper.

Why is being in the body something you want to work towards? Because you will then get to release the block in your vibration, your mind, your emotions and your entire energetic system, and this then will allow you to move into deeper presence in your own body, experiencing pleasure, sensations that you could not even feel before, and an opening in your heart and the ability to love others and receive others more deeply. Doesn’t everyone want to feel more of what they are capable of? Why not let go of what is keeping you from experiencing bliss and allow the breath to be your tool to access it!!!

This is what I teach in my private Sessions. Why not try it for yourself.

Namaste,
Asttarte Deva

The Basics of Tantra Healing

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For those of you with no previous experience, I will now be offering sessions to better prepare you to be ready for the Advanced Tantric Arts.
(For Those of you with prior experience, please skip this post and scroll below).

It takes a very brave and committed person to take on the challenge of learning the Advanced Tantra Arts; and for those of you who have never had basic experience with Spiritual Healing or Spiritual concepts, we will need to start there – i.e. Spiritual Healing Sessions that do not consist of the Tantric Arts (the basics of Tantra), in an effort to be more prepared for the Advanced Tantric Arts offered on this website.

Tantra Practices Before Sexual Healing & Intimacy Therapy (Advanced Tantra Sessions):

You will need to learn the philosophies and concepts of energy, breathing, what the chakras are and how we can use them to expand our body and soul, body work for opening the flow of energy in your entire being, energy healing for clearing energy blocks or emotional stress, yoga and what the basics of yoga are, what it means to be present, how to create consciousness within oneself and to use your emotions, stresses and pains as a guide for your growth, what your emotional and mental blocks are, the value of working through them, some Spiritual Psychotherapeutic processing, what it means to be authentic, basic meditation, and more!

I will also offer breathing practices training and meditation guidance as part of this training.

More Information:

You may visit this blog for more information on these Spiritual Healing Sessions; however, I will be updating this blog to reflect this post for your better understanding. The fees are less for these sessions, and their main purpose is to prepare you to take the Advanced Tantra Sessions seriously. The new website will describe all the Spiritual forms of Healing I offer, for those of who who qualify for these services. (See post below for information on the new website). Please Note: The more gentle Healing Sessions are just AS powerful as the Advanced Tantra Sessions and are just as important. It takes a ready and willing soul to dive into the depths of Tantra, and Tantra is not just about sex; it is about the entire person!

I am now offering Basic Tantra Practices to prepare for the Advanced Tantra Sessions — to those who just want a quick fix, and who have never had any previous experience with Healing, Tantra, Spirituality, Yoga, or Self-Development before. The Basic Tantra Practices are imperative to understand the Advanced Tantra Sessions listed in posts below.

I will not forbid you from receiving the more erotic or Advanced Tantra Services, however, some basic principles will need to be practiced to get the most out of these sessions and in order to feel all of its benefits. Basic Practices and Advanced Practices can be incorporated within one session; but being committed to a series of sessions with me over a period of time will allow you the greatest benefit and the most expansion than just coming once with no prior experience at all.

This is my way of being authentic and truly listening to my own guidance. I didn’t come to Tantra as the beginning of my Spiritual Journey. I had to learn the basics for 10 years prior to that, and asking others to dive in and understand concepts in my Tantra Sessions can be overwhelming to many. This is my way of being real, and giving you the information slowly, one step at a time!
 Asttarte Deva