Emotional Avoider and Co-Parenting
What happens when a relationship is over, has been for a while, physically and emotionally, and then your child requests both parents to join him together as a family for a fun function on your weekend? How do you as the ex-partner handle the rejection of your loved one who wants nothing to do with you, except give your child all the attention? How do you handle the avoidance, of your kindness, your simple gestures of touch on the arm, saying good bye, and not a look in your direction; just simple disappearance and walking away?
What does this stir up in you? Do you feel unwanted? Unloved? Not good enough? Or does it bring up childhood feelings with a parent of unresolved feelings? Are you an adult with of a parent who also avoided you? didn’t know how to express love? Rejected you, and withheld their love from you at all costs? Perhaps its time for a make-over and time to go deeper into your childhood experiences, even if you have done an enormous amount of spiritual, psychological and emotional work? The layers to healing are never done, and perhaps, here is a gift of shedding more.