Arousal as Energy Movement

Arousal as Energy MovementArousal as Energy Movement

What happens after a relationship ends, or you have taken an enormous amount of time to be alone? (The relationship might as well be over if that’s the case). And definitely the case if your partner had a fear of intimacy. (Search the keyword Intimacy for more posts on this topic).

What happens to your body after you’ve gone through the grieving and letting go process, and you’re ready to start dating again, or having an interest in connecting with others after all that time?

What usually happens, is your body will start telling you that you are ready. It will have desires with certain people you are attracted to, or give you sudden urges and nudges to push you to talk to someone. But what happens when you’re by yourself, and you are starting to finally open up again after all that time alone? Your body may have waves of energy movement, or jolts of sudden arousal. It may feel orgasmic, but then when you go to pleasure yourself, you may still feel certain blocks to experience a full body experience of arousal, i.e.. orgasm.

The arousal is your bodies way of telling you that you have gotten through most of the grieving process of your ex lover (husband, wife, etc) and it has achieved a level of balance, equilibrium and harmony of energy and wants to move to a higher place of joy. You completed the cycle of sadness, solitude and aloneness after the hard core break up. You took the time you needed to rest, recover, release anxiety, stress and sadness from your previous beloved, and now your body has awaken, and it wants to wake you up to match how it feels.

It can happen anywhere; your kitchen while you are cooking a meal, your car while singing to a song you love, cleaning your home, reading, talking to a friend, or even meditating or taking a bath. When your body is ready to open to a higher level of pleasure, it doesn’t matter what you are doing or who you are with. It will move and rise within you no matter what!

If you talking to a friend in person or over the phone and you definitely don’t want that friendship to turn into something different, be careful! You may want to hang up the phone or leave the current situation to allow your body to experience how it’s feeling. Otherwise, that friendship might just turn romantic pretty quickly!

If you want the friendship to turn into something else, and your friend had been waiting for you to be ready and open, awesome! Or, you are neutral and don’t care if this person will remain your friend or turn into something else, that may be time to have a discussion. However, if you have the discussion on the spot, changes will happen almost dramatically! A more rational stand would be to walk away, take care of yourself, and then talk to your friend later after the feeling of sexual arousal and frustration has calmed down.

I’ve discovered a practice called the Deer Exercise for women and men in my recent search on this topic. This is a taoist energy practice to help move and awaken someone who has been suppressed or shut down for a long time. If you are no longer suppressed and feel the energy already excited, this practice may actually just balance you and help release some of the pent up sexual frustration, and perhaps help you relieve the sexual frustration a little easier. However, I find the Shamanic Breathwork and Tantra Meditations to be more powerful. Whatever you choose is your choice, and your body will let you know what is best!

Feel free to give the Deer Exercise a try. Who knows it might help! If anything it will help keep your energies open and your body in overall health and vitality! Enjoy!

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Healing the Wounded Self

Healing the Wounded Self

healing the wounded self

Healing the Wounded Self, the chakras and Grief

When it comes to starting a path of self discovery and inner healing, most people start with the heart chakra or the crown chakra. They don’t get to the lower chakras until later, and in essence start with the heart chakra that has to do with love, abandonment, betrayal and loneliness. Or, the crown chakra that deals more with one’s spiritual connection to God, their faith, their spiritual beliefs and trust in a higher power.

Usually when one has been on the path for a long time, the healing of the chakras will recycle themselves and they’ll go around to healing many of the chakras from the beginning, and as they release many of the issues relating to all of them, they’ll come back again to where they originally had started.

Grief is a big issue in personal healing, and some don’t get to the deeper grief of their own wounding until many years after they start their own therapy treatment or healing journey. As I am moving through my own grief, in an actual death of someone very near and dear to me; my grandmother, I am reminded of the value and significance of grief in one’s personal growth and development as a whole person.

When you allow yourself to cry, you move the energy of water through your body. As water moves, it makes room for more love, and in essence, the grounding nature of earth to settle once again. When someone does not allow themselves to cry, when in truth, their is something deep emotional inside that their body wants to release, the water then turns into ice, and becomes solid into the self as a whole. As water becomes ice, the person can then become armored and movement that might be possible is blocked. This is often how anger shows itself, and the water turns to fire and tries to release in this form instead, but many don’t know how to move the anger when it shows up, or try to swallow it so they don’t release their pain onto others; and in essence it goes deeper into the self and becomes hidden. Eventually it will show up again, but when the individual can cry out their grief, and allow themselves to really feel the deeper emotions hidden within, in the moment the feelings present themselves, they can then become free again, and feel much more love than before.