Couples Marriage Coaching

Couples Marriage CoachingCouples Marriage Coaching

I’m thrilled to announce I’ve been doing more Couples and Marriage Coaching Sessions! Some couples choose to come see me separately and one on one, and some choose to see me together. While, I am great at one on one coaching, I am even better with couples! When someone comes to me privately, my focus is on helping the individual, and all the issues they are dealing with. However, not all the issues may be obvious when they come alone. I only see one persons perspective this way, and will always take to their side. When they come together, my goal is to support both individuals, and I have a bigger picture to work with, and an awareness of whats going on from both perspectives, and hence, a much bigger understanding of the healing that is needed.

I then pick up on the joint energy between the couple, the joint patterns, the joint triggers, and all the work that is needed to heal a relationship can be done right there on the spot. I still start with a gentle breathing or meditation practice, then move into coaching for each individual, and conversation of course will happen for both sides; taking turns.  We may move into forgiveness practices, acknowledging the other partner, eye gazing, breathing together, and emotional processing that is needed for each person that is at the core of the feelings inside of each of them. If we can move beyond all of these practices and the issues have been resolved, then we can move to the next stage of healing for your beloved and your relationship.

I still teach Tantra and Spiritual practices, however, they come after we have sorted out the major obstacles that are keeping your relationship separate or distant. Just like private sessions, working with the couple, both parties need to feel like they have gotten the support they needed, and each persons feelings are taken into account, as well as each persons individual issues and triggers. If the issues go beyond my abilities as a Coach, and the person needs more clinical help, we will discuss how I can be helpful alongside this, to continue the growth and healing of the relationship.

Both people in the couple must want to heal their relationship in order for the relationship to improve. If only one person wants to heal, and the other does not, we will address that in session. Or, if only one person thinks the other needs to work on them-self, and the other does not, we will find out if this is true, and how one in the couple can help the other to heal or grow. Sometimes, the support of just knowing your Beloved cares about you and wants you to be happier and feel better, and being a witness to your growth is all it takes. And sometimes, this inspires the other person in the relationship to realize they need to look at them-self too!

The cycle of making the other partner wrong is at the core of all relationships! When you can take personal responsibility for your half and how you are being with your partner, most obstacles melt away!

Love, Asttarte

Lyme and Living Powerfully

Lyme and Living Powerfully

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If you have Lyme Disease, and you are confident about it, how do you live a powerful life despite what you might be dealing with? First off, every single person has different symptoms. You might be fine for months or years without noticing any symptoms at all, and then you might go through a change and have enormous symptoms that need to be taken care of. Or perhaps you might have symptoms that are manageable, but then you get to a certain point where you are tired of dealing with those symptoms, and want your body to feel amazing all the time!

Having Lyme can be a gift in a certain perspective. It will bring up emotions in your body that you didn’t know existed, and may have been suppressed your entire life if you didn’t have a physical symptom that caused pain and made you have to look at yourself.  Some people may have fear of death, anxiety that was already in their body before Lyme, perhaps depression before the Lyme, internalized and deeply repressed anger, or other emotional experiences that the Lyme actually made one confront. Why does having Lyme make one confront these very core imprint and DNA patterns in the body? Because its a part of your internal truth, how you developed as a young child, perhaps even feelings carried over from past lives (if you believe in that), and the enormous level of pain over a long period of time makes people need to confront some very primal aspects of their identity. Having Lyme is not like having a car accident, where you go to the hospital and get treated for a couple days and then go home. It is a VERY long term dis-ease, that causes one to address some very deep rooted feelings they may never have confronted without it.

Perhaps like Cancer, it makes one question their life, why they contracted the cancer, where they were holding grudges and anger, who they blamed and made wrong, and if they truly want to live. It makes people question their thinking, how they feel about things, and their life, Similar to Cancer, Lyme makes people have to face the pain over and over and over again, and in doing so, go through deep emotional processes of healing. Perhaps this alone is why I myself did not figure out I had it until I transformed my identity, my psyche, and emotional life. The emotional, mental and spiritual self needs to be dealt with often before the physical self can be healed. And the more emotional feelings are stored in the body, the longer it may take someone to heal. So, healing the emotional self, does empower someone to heal the physical self.

After you have dealt with the deeper core emotional issues, you can feel empowered, integrated and aligned on a psychological level, and when pain arises, or fear, it comes and leaves just as quickly as it arrived. Often any anxiety one used to have or depression one used to have, diminishes or dissipates altogether. So for those who have had a lot to heal psychologically, in a way, it can be a blessing. The next journey is in empowering the physical self!

How does one heal the physical self? Well after you have dealt with the psychological self, you can empower yourself, inspire yourself, and encourage yourself to keep finding answers, and know and believe that after you had healed all the other aspects of who you are, healing lyme actually is quite a snap! Not that it is easy, however, the journey to healing may be much less than the emotional and spiritual one!

The important thing is listening to the body, and letting your own body be your natural healer and teacher, and trusting that over anyone else!

For anyone with lyme, I hope to inspire you to know and believe that you can heal, and you don’t have to suffer! You can live an amazing, fun filled and passionate life, despite your circumstances! Things will get better, and you will thrive!

Much Love,

Asttarte

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

When To Go Past Dating

When To Go Past Dating

When to Go Past Dating

When To Go Past Dating 

How do you know when to take your relationship past the dating point? How do you know when to start kissing, being intimate, or becoming sexual? If you want the relationship to last, and not be just a sexual fling, it is often best to avoid deeper acts of sex and intimacy until you know for sure the relationship feels solid. There is that rocky stage in a new relationship where you want to be intimate, but you also want it to be the real thing. How do you know how long to wait and when to go past dating? Do you wait one month, three months, or four? Timing can be everything for each couple, and each individual.

It is crucial to discover how serious the person you are dating is, especially if you want something serious.  And if you find out two months in, they don’t want anything serious, its much easier to walk away if you haven’t had sex. But what if you have? Then what do you do? Do you walk away as soon as you know your goals are different? Or do you wait it out to see if perhaps the other person is not sure yet?

Most of the time, if someone tells you in the beginning of a relationship, that they don’t want anything serious, you should really listen to them. If they tell you they just want to have fun, or want to remain celibate, or are not looking for long term commitment, you should take whatever words they say literally. Their actions may be different than their words, but its the words in the very beginning that define how they will truly be later. If someone hints to you that they “think” maybe they are Bipolar, or that they have had a history of being afraid after things start to get serious, and hide or pull away, LISTEN to them! All of these initial honest clues will impact the rest of your relationship, and if they told you these things from the beginning, you WERE forewarned!!!

If your date, warned you about some major things that would impact your dreams of a healthy and serious relationship, and you didn’t listen, that’s your fault! You need to be the one to walk away, and you need to be the stronger one; not them. They are wounded, scared, conflicted, confused, or perhaps just a jerk. You need to be the wise one! And choose whether to go past dating and of deeper into the relationship, or end it!

It is best NOT to have any sexual intimacy with someone until you know for sure who they are, their habits, beliefs, goals, if you could be good friends, if they are healthy, if you are compatible, and if you can really see yourself with them for the long term. When you jump in right away, not truly discovering their true colors, things get sticky and challenging, and it only causes more pain later. Be smart, and wait. Trust your gut, and listen to your heart!

Asttarte

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Viagra vs Tantra Transformation

Viagra vs Tantra Transformation

Viagra vs Tantra Transformation
Viagra vs Tantra Transformation

There are many sources of what is causing your erection to not be as strong as it used to be, and if we find out the source, often we can also find the solution!

I’ve been doing tantra healing work now for over 11 years, and it’s amazing, but even more amazing is having added the tools of tantra, to my previous Reiki Master training, and Energy Healer trainings, along with Life Coaching and Psychotherapy tools. If I hadn’t had all that training, I probably wouldn’t be able to say that I can help someone with sexual dysfunction issues, or trauma stuck in his or her sacral chakra, or solar plexus, heart chakra, or somewhere else.

So what’s amazing, is that I find people who are on the fence with getting viagra, and have heard tons of horrible stories about it, and I stop them right there, and say, “Please DON’T take that stuff!” Too many bad stories about it, and way to dangerous! But what I do tell them is that I might be able to help. Most guys are looking for their erection. They wonder why they have gone limp, and often they are in a long term relationship or marriage when this happens. Most of the guys I have had success with this are 60 and younger. The guys older than this, the success rate is less, because it turns into a health issue and then we have to address the health. I don’t have as much experience of success helping it from a health standpoint, but I am learning and may take some further training so I do have more success.

However, if it is psychological, mental, emotional, or an energetic or spiritual reason, I can certainly help! Often it is one of these. For example, if you’re having trouble with your erection, but you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, most of the time, it is due to issues within the relationship, and we will move into Relationship Coaching to discuss the patterns in the relationship, or issues that might be causing some distance. If you don’t feel distant from your partner, and the relationship is going well, then it is an issue with yourself, something internal you are feeling, something you need to process and let go of, or perhaps something you need to forgive yourself for, or someone else.

Another example, if you are angry at your girlfriend/wife/partner and you are unable to get aroused, there’s your answer; the anger. Perhaps you have suppressed the anger and think you can ignore it, but then your body is telling you clearly that you cannot ignore it, by your loss of arousal or erection, then we can get to work on processing the source of the anger. If your partner has been blaming you for something, or judging you, or not appreciating or respecting you for something, and then you go to have sex with her, and are unable to get aroused, sorting through your own feelings about how she had been treating you up to this point, is what will help the erection come back.

Another option, is if you have a pattern of losing interest in being in relationship with someone, let’s say for 3 months or 6 months, and a year has gone by in a newer relationship, and the sex just doesn’t seem to be working as well as it did in the beginning, we may need to address some deeper core issues around commitment, intimacy, and the desire for freedom. This falls more into attachment styles, and if you have a tendency to be dismissive or avoidant in your relationships, and don’t know why you have lost your interest to be close, intimate or even sexual, we will look at the source of this.  Often it is something way deeper than you think!

Another possibility is if you are still in love with your ex! Let’s say you got into a new relationship and perhaps at your core, were not done grieving your ex, there’s a chance that you still are in love with your ex, and the energy between you and your ex also is still attached. This happens on a psychic level, and we will then do a spiritual energy cleansing process I call Cord Cutting, to help detach you from your ex, so you can feel your own body, and experience your life from a fresh start!

To go deeper into this possibility (still being in love with your ex), let’s say you are still in a committed marriage or relationship, and you decide to open it up and have an affair or perhaps your wife/beloved is fully aware of you seeing someone else, and your body is not a match for the decision you made! Your body, and your genitals, are telling you, that you are still committed to someone else, and you may have guilt, or a lack of integrity with yourself about the new relationship! Then you may be fully ok with dating, friendly, happy, playful, and can cuddle and even have great foreplay, but when the act of sex comes around, you shut down!

Massage and stimulation won’t alter your bodies response to what’s going on inside of you. If your erection is weak, or missing all together, the answer is not a physical stimulation, or even a drug that changes your physical reaction. The answer is what is underneath your bodies response. Our bodies are very powerful tools for what is going on inside of us, and whether you are a man or a woman, it doesn’t make a difference. Your body will communicate to tell you what is going on emotionally, mentally, energetically, and spiritually. We are a spiritual body, and often the answer to a pain, or in this case, a lack of arousal, you have to look much deeper than the physical. You can stimulate for hours and days upon days, until your sore or bruised, but it won’t transform the reaction until you do the real work; whats waiting inside of you; your heart, your feelings, your core emotional and spiritual self!

There are many sources of what is causing your erection to not be as strong as it used to be, and if we find out the source, often we can also find the solution!

Much Love and Joy to your passionate journey of yourself!

Asttarte

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How Do You Nurture Yourself?

How Do You Nurture Yourself?

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How you nurture yourself all depends on what it is you are dealing with in your personal life.

Are you dealing with health matters?

Are you having relationship challenges and feeling your partner at arms length?

Is your family avoiding you and ignoring you or your feelings?

Are you having a higher level of stress and anxiety than normal?

Are you feeling more angry than normal, more tired than normal?

Are you feeling isolated, alone, sad?

How do you nurture yourself in these different situations? They each have different paths one would take to feel better, heal, come to solutions or happiness depending on the circumstance.

The first thing that is helpful is to do a daily meditation practice. You can start with 10 minutes, 15 minutes, 20 minutes, or 30 minutes. Just that short window of time will make you feel so much better. some people like to jump in and start with an hour. If you have the time, go for the hour. If not, try a smaller time frame.

Then do something that’s going to nurture your soul, perhaps a new spiritual practice, such as yoga, chakra healing, reading a spiritual book, learning about angels, crystals, breath work, or even getting acupuncture, massage or a reiki treatment.

Another excellent practice is drinking a specific tea that is helpful for your situation. There are many teas on the market, and many you can make at home. Most teas are made with natural herbs and are a cheaper solution than buying multiple bottles of different herbs, or oils. Herbs and essential oils can be costly when buying in bulk, but teas are very affordable. Try to match your situation with the type of tea that would be helpful for that. If you don’t know, try seeking a tea expert, an herbalist, or feel free to reach out to me for suggestions.

Next, write down everything that is going on. It is very helpful to write down your feelings, and using your writing as a sort of therapy. Writing is very cathartic and sometimes when you write down what you feel, what happened, and the situation, it can help you let it go and feel so much better about things. Then you are able to move on from it, and almost feel empowered that you expressed yourself. Some people don’t like to write, but try pushing yourself a little, via a wordpress document, in notes on your computer, or even writing in a spiral notebook or nice journal book. It sometimes feels very good to write things down with a real pen or pencil. It touches a different part of the brain and releases energy pent up in your throat and lower chakras, believe it or not. It’s not going to have the same benefit as a meditation, or chakra healing, but it is still quite powerful.

Are you an artist, musician or do you like doing things with your hands? This could be a great way to nurture your inner self, and help get through a challenging event, experience, or point in your life. You don’t have to be an expert. As long as you do it, put your heart into it and are intentional, anything you do can be helpful, and in the end, amazing!

What is it you are dealing with? Talk to me here! I’m happy to respond!

Polyamory and Marriage: When You Want Your Husband and Someone else shows up!

Polyamory and Marriage - when you want your husband and someone else shows upWhen You Want Your Husband and Someone Else Shows Up. This is the pitfall of many relationships. A woman is craving connection with the man she loves, and what happens is that her man is unavailable. He’s busy or preoccupied, or his interest has dwindled and he has other concerns and things he wants to focus on. She’s deeply saddened and desperate to gain his attention, but he’s always somewhere else, emotionally or physically.

In a Polyamorous Marriage this is perfectly fine. There is an agreement between both partners that they are allowed to be with other lovers, so long as the structure of the relationship is maintained. However, if the foundation of the marriage is rocky, or there has been very little connection, intimacy and commitment between the two partners, straying from the marriage can feel like cheating, or in Christian terms “committing adultery”.

When you’re in love with your husband (or significant beloved) and there is no intimacy, your heart tears up inside. You want his commitment. You want his willingness to do what it takes to be there for you, stay by your side and give you his all! But when you have waited and waited for him to show up in this way, and all of a sudden someone else shows up, most of the time, it is like God giving you the gift you have been waiting for! You fall prey to this new amazing being that you are so deeply drawn to, and your wish has been granted. Then the big question is: what do you do next? Do you continue to wait for the man you deeply love, or do you continue to fall into the arms of another? How long are you truly willing to wait? If waiting is putting your life on hold, perhaps waiting is not what your supposed to be doing anyway. Perhaps, you ARE supposed to be enjoying life and just surrender to what life gives you!

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Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

Sex and Sadness

How can you feel passionate and sexy when you’re sad? How can you open up to your sexuality when you are grieving a loved one who died, or a family member of yours is very ill or hurt? How can you feel sexual when you and a partner recently broke up?

Opening up to your sexual essence is nearly impossible when major life events show up. Even one of these events can take someone down a downward spiral for months, but all of them at once seems like a Tsunami of change and where something major is happening to teach one a lesson, or to help grow towards greater enlightenment. I am talking about my personal life, and using it to help others. One of my dearest and best friends passed away recently, and her viewing was in fact on my birthday this year.  It blew me away to realize how someone so young could move on. Her health was suffering, and even though she was much younger than me, she struggled to get to the source of her pain. She had a history of trauma and I spent many years trying to help her. My lesson in my relationship with her, is the same lesson in the bigger picture of all of these events (marriage ending, her death and a loved one getting severely hurt). The lesson is, I can’t heal everyone! As much as I want to help people, and perhaps be their hero, I can’t help all. And, I deeply tried to help her, but she rejected me year after year. The more I tried, it seemed the more she pushed me away. It’s amazing that right before her heart stopped, weeks prior she finally reached out to me, and asked for guidance on her spiritual development. I waited for over 15 years for her to be interested. But then it was too late. At 33, she moved on, with a beating heart that stopped and her breath became silent. Perhaps it was too much for her to try to heal in her body, and her personality would not allow it. Now, she can heal on the spirit realm, and perhaps in a new body and a new life, she can heal this life.

The end of a relationship also takes a toll. It’s like a death unto itself. You have to interact with that person in a whole new way.  Grieving someone that is still living is a challenge alone. You wonder why things couldn’t work out. You wonder why they refused to heal, or were unwilling to admit their own responsibility in their own choices. You wonder why they project all their anger and blame of things they did, onto you. You can question it over and over again, but mental illness sometimes cannot be figured out. And, when the other person chooses not to heal or get help, the only thing left is to grieve. Being their friend is a challenge, because you don’t know when and if they’ll try to blame you for their own feelings again. It was such a challenge in walking away this time, that I decided to write about it. And perhaps, write about the struggle. And, maybe it could help others who loved someone with a mental illness. It’s NOT your fault! It’s not my fault. My heart is as big as The Divine Mother! But knowledge and wisdom in how to deal with someone like this, helps to end the pattern of being pulled back in, when they put on a beautiful act of being nice again. I’ll consider writing more of the story of this. Perhaps it could be a short story. However, the lesson again, is “I cannot help so much that I sacrifice my life away!”

And to top it off, my father fell and hit his head! He had a concussion with delirium. He had memory loss, but only half the time. The status is, is that he’s getting better! I am deeply grateful he is getting better and I’ll find out more tomorrow how much better he is. But at the height of his fall, I was there. I visited him for multiple days, and spent 5 or 6 hours a day just sitting with him, waiting until he woke up, helping him eat, and talking and laughing. It was very healing to be with him in this way, and he would say often, “why are you crying? I’m ok!” But I didn’t feel like he was ok. I said, “But you’re different!” And he said, “But my heart is the same!” And I smiled and said, “you are right!” It’s amazing how alike we are, and how much we get along; 2 Aries and my whole life I had no idea how similar we are until now. I am grateful to still have more years and time to spend with him, and I will continue to grow in the acceptance and understanding, that I am NOT superwoman, and I cannot save and fix everyone, but a part of me, will still always try!

So, the point of this writing, Sex and Sadness….how can one be in touch with their sexuality when they are feeling sadness? Well, simply, they cannot! One has to go through the sadness, to get to the sexiness. Many people try to ignore their feelings, their sadness, their anger, or disappointment, etc and go straight to the sexual feelings. And, then they wonder why nothing sexual is happening! Well, the answer is right in front of you! You have to feel all of your feelings, the happy ones AND the sad ones in order to feel to juicy ones! Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring them, then they only get suppressed deeper. The more you can feel your painful feelings, the more bliss and joy you can feel when they move through you and release out of your body! And, the body WILL tell you when painful feelings are there! It ALWAYS will, so you might as well go through them, and not try jumping over them! There is a much greater reward in the end when you do!

“Instead of getting on medication, for stresses, just FEEL your feelings! Then all that stress and heavy feelings just simply go away! But you have to feel deeply, and at your core, or it will only come back until you finally face yourself again!”

Sexual Repression to Expansion

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How does one go from being sexually depleted, lacking desire, energy or passion to finally feeling their own pleasure again?

I consider the body as a being of energy, light and movement, and with awareness, and knowledge of what is going on inside the body, what is going on in the mind, how the body feels physically, and the energy surrounding the body, one can get access to how to alter it to feeling how they “choose” to feel!

That is a lot to sort and figure out, one might say! However, really, our bodies are capable of so much more than we realize, and we ourselves have the ability to adapt, alter or change how we feel at any given moment. We can shift our focus onto what we are thinking and feeling, by what where we choose to place our attention. So, if we can do this, why not alter how our entire body feels at any given moment?

Some call me an Alchemist, because I have the ability to do this, however, it is a fun process to figure out what is going on, what is blocked, and then hone in to exactly the path to shift one’s physical sensation and reality.

So on to the subject of “Sexual Repression to Expansion”:

What are you dealing with emotionally? You can take on practices to sooth your feelings, clear them or calm them down.

Where are the emotions stored in your body? You can do visualization exercises, energy healing practices, chakra clearing and guided visualization or meditation to alter or dissolve the un-happy or stuck feelings that are not filled with light, joy or love.

What does your energy feel like around your body? Does it feel heavy or dark? Does it feel mucky or clouded? Does it feel intense like anger or a wall? Does it feel confused or sad?

How does your body feel physically? Are your muscles sore or tight? (and where). Do you feel tired, lethargic, or weak and maybe prone to getting colds (weakened immune system).

Once you discover these 4 main areas, and whether some or all need to be addressed, you can go deeper into tackling the energies that are causing the repression. One area may take significantly more importance than another, and possibly need to put all your attention on it for a while before moving on to the next. After all these are done, then you can go into the specific chakras that are asking for the most attention, do some chakra clearing practices, movement of the energies, and work on releasing the weight within in. That’s when it starts to get fun!

Once all the issues have been resolved, the chakras are moving, cleared and open, then you can go into the tantra meditation that will create expansion! And from there anything is possible!

If this sounds easy, try it out for yourself! See if you can take it on and create the movement you desire! And, if you need a little help, feel free to ask for it, and send me a message!

Lovingly to your pleasure and success,

Asttarte xoxo

Energy Manipulation and Control

Energy Manipulation and Control

 

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Have you every had the experience where you went somewhere to do a kind deed, and then someone went from being helpful and giving to rude and controlling without a moment’s notice?

Today I had a strange experience, at a Hallmark, where I went to buy my mom a gift, and the woman at the register ended up calling the cops. I was a bit dumb-shocked to say the least. We were having a great conversation, about reiki, energy healing, yoga and the healing arts, and as we were making the transaction at the register, she told me the total amount for the starfish earrings I was getting was $9.49, and I handed her a twenty dollar bill, 4 ones and 49 cents. I said, “can you hand me back $15, a ten and a five?” She wasn’t paying attention at this point, and had given me 2 fives. She didn’t see that there was four ones and 49 cents on her counter. She said, “I already gave you two fives.” I looked at them at the counter, and said, “you just owe me another five.” Apparently, she had never taken the ones and change.

She looked at me and said, “I’m going to have to recount my money.” I said, “all you have to give me is a 5 and we’re good.” She still apparently was oblivious that the money on the counter was for her. Five minutes had gone by, and I’m still waiting. I had no idea she wanted to have me wait to count her entire til and have me standing there for over 10 or fifteen minutes. At this point, I was frustrated. I said, “mam, this doesn’t have to be complicated.”

She said, “If you interrupt me again, I’m calling the police.” I just looked at the counter, looked at her drawer, and looked at her. Obviously she was extremely angry, about something I didn’t know what. And, she wanted me to take some punishment of some kind of her lack of awareness of what I handed her, and the amount that was the difference. Saying, “it’s simple math” didn’t make her very happy. At some point I felt her control. I felt her anger, and she was adamant on doing it her way, and making me wrong for having a thought about it, and wanted to start over her counting process 2 or 3 or more times.

Perhaps if she said, “I didn’t count the additional change you gave me. The balance is worked out” it would have been fine. I would have gotten it, but she wanted to make a small situation into a really big one, and hold me there until she resolved her counting process several times. So ultimately the cop showed up. He was a super sweet, patient and nice man. He stood there watching me watch her. She had us both wait until she was done counting. By the time she was done, she said, “You owe me a dollar. My til is short one dollar.” By this time I wanted to be done, and said, “I’ll pay your dollar that you’re short, but I don’t owe you a dollar.” The officer handed her a dollar of his own, and said, “This is ridiculous. This shouldn’t be a big deal.” She felt satisfied, and while standing there I apologized for interrupting her while she was trying to count. She said sternly, “I accept your apology.”

I said, “Are we done?” She said “yes.” I went to leave and the officer followed me outside, and said, “Come talk to me.”

We went outside and walked to the side. He said, “Are you satisfied with how it ended?” And, I said, “I think she just got really confused, and she was really upset.” He said, “Yes, she turned something tiny into something huge. I hope you feel you were treated fair and you got complete.” I said “thank you, she was just super upset.”

She certainly gave me anxiety by using this manipulation tactic and projecting her anger outwards.

Not only was she upset. She was controlling and seriously angry. She had commented that because I’m a Life Coach, teach meditation, yoga and healing that I shouldn’t “act this way”. I think more she meant, “You shouldn’t make me upset when you are a Life Coach, Healer, Yoga Teacher, etc”. However, no one can control another person’s upset. If someone becomes controlling, demanding and angry, its on them. It came from within them. Energy transference from someone dominating you to make you scared, or manipulate to keep you in fear, or hold their “fangs on you”, is not the way to sort something out. She was not responsible on how she forgot what I handed her, and if she did remember, she was using control for another reason. It wasn’t nice. All she had to do was acknowledge the action, and acknowledge the error, but not everyone is willing to admit their mistakes. And they choose to put their mistakes on others. It’s sad to be at the receiving end of this, but I’m grateful the cop got it, and was apologetic and kind to me in the end!

Perhaps she was confused. Perhaps she was jealous. Perhaps she wanted to see if she could make me upset. And, perhaps she went from being open in one moment, to getting triggered, and has some hidden agenda to make people wait for her as her way of controlling them. And, if she doesn’t get what she wants in doing this, she feels out of control, and hence, needed to call the cops. I feel bad for her, but it doesn’t seem she is in the right profession and I feel privy to filing a complaint on her. Or, I too, can let it go. But I do hope she doesn’t treat other customers in the same way. No one deserves that!

Perhaps, too, she just needs some love, and some real healing herself!

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Sending love out into the universe to all of those who need it!

What Color is Your Aura

What Color is Your Aura

What Color is Your Aura

What Color is Your Aura?

Do you know what color your aura is? Do you know what color your energy is vibrating? Do you know what frequency the energy your aura is vibrating?

Have you ever looked at an animal at peace, resting at home, and noticed the color he or she was putting off? Have you ever tried looking closely at your lover when they were upset, and noticed the color they emitted from their body?

When someone is at peace, they are going to put off a certain frequency and a certain color or colors that reflect the peace they are feeling. The same goes for when someone is upset; they are going to reflect in their energetic space, the colors that they are feeling.

For instance, when someone is feeling peaceful, quiet and gentle, you may notice their colors as green, blue or white. And, when they are upset, they may have more colors such as red, orange, even gray or black, or a foggy yellow or dark blue. The dominant color when someone is upset is red or orange, and the dominant color when someone is at peace is blue, green or white. Before even speaking to someone, you may be able to sense or pick up how they are feeling before beginning a conversation. Sometimes this is helpful when you know they may be feeling sensitive, or you are going to have a serious conversation. You may, in a sense, know how they are going to respond before speaking, or perhaps know how to speak in a way that may be supportive to the person’s reaction.

How do you change the color of your aura?

Once you are aware of the dominant colors you are putting off in the world, and you are aware of the meaning behind the colors, you can then choose, if you desire, to put off a different frequency and a different emotion into the world. The best way to change into a different frequency, is to choose “how is it I want to be feeling today?” And, make a statement to yourself, “I am choosing today to be happy, vibrant and to feel alive!” How might those colors reflect in the world? It might be a bright beautiful orange, a vibrant yellow, a soft or loud pink, and perhaps blue or green. We don’t get to choose the colors we put off, but we do get to choose how we want to feel, and then choose practices to support us to feel more in alignment with that choice. It takes practice to shift how we are feeling, but with practice, it can become easy.

People really do need people to support each other in this world, and sometimes, when you are stuck in a dark cloud, or dark aura, asking for guidance is the best solution.

Other positive statements might be something like this:

“I am grounded, secure and powerful in the world. I love who I am, and people love me!”

“I am a passionate being, I am creative and my creativity is a magnet for success, joy and love!”

“I love who I am, and I love what I do! People love who I am and love being with me!”

“I am a beautiful, kind human being, and that is enough! I can be me and that is awesome!”

If you know how you are feeling, you have more of an access for choosing to vibrate at a different frequency and a different color. If you would like to read more on the aura, colors and frequency, let me know. I’ll write more pieces to support you and your understanding, growth and creativity!

Blessings and Namaste,

Asttarte

 

 

A Life That REALLY Matters!

A Life That REALLY Matters!

A Life That Really Matters

Spending a lifetime in taking care of others, being utterly kind, giving and making sure everyone else is taken care of before you are is exhausting, disempowering and often when we can forget who we truly are. In the old days, it was common for women to be tortured and abused if they did not follow the rules and do as they were told. It was very common for children to be beaten, whipped, confined and tortured. There were far more slaves living amongst our world, and far more authorities used their power to take advantage of the weak. Most were given the title of “witch” if they had their own mind and thought for themselves, and then killed for using their intuitive minds or creative thinking.

Today, there is more freedom, however, centuries of power and control does not get destroyed so easily. We grow up still being afraid to speak our truth, we hide our feelings, we do as others say and we often adhere to what society expects of us without choosing a new path; one of freedom, truth and self expression.

When we spend so much time at the mercy of others, we truly “forget” the importance of who we are as human beings. We often enter into relationships with others to re-live the same pattern, the illusion that we must give of ourselves and make others happy, for our own happiness. We choose to suffer in silence and instead of hurting anyone else, we hurt ourselves. We do it willingly though. We think it is of the norm. It is “no big deal”. But truly, it really IS a big deal! It is our lives we are talking about. It is our sanity, our vitality, our energy, our breath, our health, our personal lives, our creativity, our passion and our fun we are messing with when we give up our power to another just to be sure “they” are happy over there!

What is SO great about making everyone else happy anyway? What do you gain from giving all your kindness, your innocence, your strength, your vulnerability, your power and your hope to another human being? What is then left for you? Anything? When we do these things there is nothing left to give to the other people in our lives. They lose interest in us. They forget who we really are because we’re so busy making sure our Beloved, or our child, or our parent, is happy.

What is a life that really matters to YOU? Is it living out your dreams? Is it moving somewhere you never thought you could? Is it building something you always imagined, but never took the first steps? Is it starting a health and fitness program? Is it having a child your partner said you couldn’t? Is it calling your brother or sister when your partner doesn’t like them? Is it giving or contributing to society in a big way that will matter for everyone in your community? Is it finding the man or woman of your dreams? Is it finding your old best friend?

The simplest things, can be the biggest things, because they are important to YOU, and no one else. And that alone is why it MATTERS! And always will!

Tantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

Tantra Doesn't Heal EverythingTantra Doesn’t Heal Everything

In response to Maya’s blog article titled:

Why I Dumped my Career as a Tantric Sexual Healer in Trade for Yoga and Meditation.

Maya,

Everything you share here is exactly where I am at in my own practice of giving to others. Here in the West, it is extraordinarily difficult to help others truly understand what the term “tantra” really means. And in the end, those who don’t get it truly won’t get it when we as Dakinis and Healers try to make them get it, hoping they will surrender to our truths and wisdom when they simply are just not ready. They need to do their personal work first. And only then will they truly understand what the term tantra really is, when and after they’ve delved so deep into their psyche and their self that they will come to tantra as a celebration of all the hard work they have done on their self. SO many assume and presume tantra means sex, that it puts us who are truly attempting to offer something of value and sacred, that it takes the sacred out of it. I am going to be also taking another Yoga Teacher Training come soon, and am moving into offering my Intuitive Psychic Healing gifts at a whole other level. Intuitive Deep Relaxation Therapy; for channeling the healing needed at an energetic level with the inner self, Quantum Intuitive Healing for healing the entire self; emotional, mental, energetic, spiritual and auric fields and any energies on the layers outside the body from 5 to 15 feet around and above the head. And Emotional Energy Therapy for allowing those who are ready to go deep into their emotional process and release pain in their physical body to let go of their armor and struggle within. I am excited to move into this direction, have some fear of the transition and shift in income, but know I am honoring my heart and trust this is where spirit is guiding me! With Love beautiful sister, Asttarte

In being authentic we get to see our true colors, and during this time of transition, my heart is open and soaring and ready for the universe to guide me deeper to my own heart, and yours!

During this time of transition, I am now offering services that are divinely connected to my heart. It is my gift to give to you, and anyone you may think could benefit!

New Services of the Heart

These Services are being offered at AsttarteHeals.com. Come find me there!

Quantum Intuitive Healing

New Method of Healing: All levels of healing, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically. It’s a process where I can see the energy that’s blocked on the body, and then I hone in to that place and we travel together to unravel the weight, block or denseness in that area and then we remove it. Then after it has been removed anything your spirit and body is open to is able to receive. Often this process cleanses the energy field around the body and any emotional blocks one is experiencing. It’s very gentle, powerful, intense and magical!

Spiritual Massage

A gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again! I may combine techniques of Zen Shiatsu, Thai Yoga Massage, Acupressure and Swedish Massage.

Reiki

Reiki is a method of clearing the energetic, spiritual dense energies around the body, purifying the aura, chakras, and energy field and helping to move deeper into the physical body for cleansing and purification and eventually moving to bliss, love, and kundalini flow. Sessions can move to awakening chi in the body.

Deep Relaxation Therapy

Receive support and guidance to travel to the parts of yourself incomplete, separate and unresolved within yourself and outside of yourself in your psychic field. You may have spiritual contracts, agreements or vows made with others in this lifetime or others that are holding you back and keeping you stuck. Let’s travel together to see what is needed to heal and unravel into the spirit and bring you fully back to yourself. You will be left feeling validated, acknowledged, understood and your heart will soar open!

Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy – Guided Journey and Emotional Healing

(A form of Spiritual Psychotherapy, Hypnosis and Gestalt Therapy).

Asttarte’s own self created healing modality: Here we will journey together to help you feel guided towards the path to your deeper self, inner self, or child self and unravel the patterns that are keeping you stuck, in fear, sad, confused or in pain. In this process we find the area of pain in the body, travel to communicate to it, help it to open and speak what it has longed to say, and come out feeling free, loved, clear and a huge weight lifted off of you! Whatever is your greatest need, we will walk together in the journey to your own freedom.

Go deep in your personal healing,  your deepest and most hidden emotions and reveal the truth of who you are.

Through EET, here we begin a journey of self exploration and take you to your own limits of what feels comfortable and safe for you.

Integrated Energy Therapy

Integrated Energy Therapy Integrated Energy Therapy is a form of healing that uses acupressure and a hand gesture technique to cleanse the physical body and aura of emotional blocks from the present or past. IET cleanses the body internally and externally, using a method to pull the energies out from the body clearing the aura, or energy field with a simple movement of the hand in connection with the acupressure point the practitioner holds. It helps to relax and rejuvenate the individual and gives a feeling of complete lightness after a session. IET is a frequency of energy connected with Angel Ariel or any being the practitioner feels draw to the most, but directly links their heart chakra to the heart chakra of the divine.

Body Awareness Intuitive Healing – & Chakra Balancing

These Sessions are intuitively guided. You will be guided to scan your body and tune in to how you are feeling in each area of your body that experiences discomfort or pain. You will then get clarity on exactly where your stress is coming from and how to release the pain your body is carrying. We can then move the Session into a direction of focused intent, desire, and manifestation of what you really do want and create a structure to help make it happen! 🙂

Transformational Life Coaching

(for your Sex life, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Career or any area important to you)

“Transform any area of your life that is getting in the way of having the relationship (and life) you deserve!”

“Get to the bottom of what’s keeping you apart, and have an amazing relationship again with the one you love the most!

“When the rest of your life is affecting your relationship… and when the rest of your life is getting in the way of having the life you deserve.”

Cord Cutting

(from your partner, any relationship or experience blocking you)

Cord cutting is an excellent practice for releasing the struggles with your partner, and then after your “UN-healthy” connection is severed, we can then get to work on making the relationship healthier.

With love Always,

Asttarte Deva

For YOUR Pleasure

For Your Pleasure

Asttarte & True Tantra Presents “For Your Pleasure”:

Exciting Tantra; Healing Services of the Month

Crystal Healing

Upon walking in to my Healing space, you will undress and stand before me. You will be smudged with a Native American Smudge stick, or broken pieces of sage, and cleansed of your stress, and whatever energy you may have been experiencing prior to this moment. I will chant musical tones and Sanskrit mantras over your body. My breath and voice will nourish your soul and cleanse your spirit.  After the front of your body is cleared I will ask you to turn facing your backside towards me. I will continue the ritual on the other side of your body, and upon completion have you sit on my purple pleasure couch. You will still be naked, and I will scan your body with my inner wisdom, and offer a few crystals for you to hold. I will prepare you to move into tantric bliss with a tantra meditation that starts very subtle, and moves to very intense. When you are ready, I will have you lay down, and continue the state you are in, with the crystals and your breath, and my touch.

Cuddle Sessions

My Cuddle Sessions are often the practice done prior to any Intimacy Therapy Healing or nurturing session. They can also be a catalyst for your deeper healing, healing your heart, cleansing your chakras, or arouse your sexual appetite, and begin sacred sexual energy healing.

You may choose a Cuddle Session, and only desire to work on healing your heart, and we can then do a reiki hands on or massage session when you are ready and have received enough energy from me.

You may also choose to do a Cuddle Session, and desire to move into other Tantric practices for sensuality, sexuality or healing whatever issues you are dealing with in your life (such as relationship issues, emotional issues, sex, self love, etc).

You may choose to receive a Hugging practice with me, do eye gazing, and do nothing else. This alone can heal the entire body; for the eyes remove the energy between two people, and open up an energy vacuum to cleanse the spirit. I’ve done this practice for over an hour in the past, and my entire body turned orgasmic. It can be quite powerful!

Cuddle Sessions can just be a Hugging Session that I do in my Hugging Power Classes, and move slowly, deeply into an embraced hug while in a sitting position. And I can then hold you in my arms, as you need to be nurtured, or you may feel the desire to hold a woman and we may stay connected this way for some time.

We can move into any other practice after the hugging or cuddle segment that will be supportive to you in this moment!

Reiki Training Sessions

Have you ever been reiki trained? Have you ever wondered what it was? Have you received a subtle reiki energy session from anyone in the past? This power, I believe, is the power of the energy source of the universe. All energy can be cleared, removed, and harnessed with the practice of reiki and energy healing, and life moves into a powerful spiritual awakening no matter what you choose to do in any moment. I have been a Usui Reiki Master since the year 2000, and have since added many other forms of reiki on top of this. I am happy to play in the art of energy with you, and help you heal, and teach you along the way! All energy healing can move one into full pleasure, as it removes everything else that is in the way!

More Sessions Available:

Meditation & Life Coaching

Gentle Taoist Shiatsu Massage

Tantra Yoga Training Sessions and Certification

Skype or Phone Coaching & Spiritual Training Sessions,

Conference Call Coaching Sessions – 10 week Program – for Goddess Healing (paid by paypal or check – other options available)

My sites have been changed, and more corrections will be made soon.  All blogs other than those listed on the Asttarte site will be removed, or contents taken and put into my books. My goal has been to be an author since a young child, for poetry, fiction and non-fiction. Now it is moving into self help, coaching and tantra for adults, and spiritual healing for the younger audience. I’m excited to launch this new year into the start of my dreams coming true. The first book has about 90 pages so far, so I have a ways to go. Anyone who wishes to help inspire me I am very open to your questions! Many Blessings~

 

Asttarte

347-618-1276 or 631-913-8572

Detoxing Your Life

Detoxing Your Life

Detoxing Your Life

Now that we are moving into the depth of fall, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing more clothes, having more time outside, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. How is everyone doing? After the Thanksgiving Holiday is over, and preparing our feasts, spending hours long with our family members, we then dive into our Reunions, As I contemplate this season, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil, and energy drinks to green tea, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Coconut Oil and Olive Oil for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:
Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation
Hold compassion for others in your mind
Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:
Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)
Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms
Consider substituting out foods for better choices
Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices
Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:
Be more patient and understanding
Look at the situation from their point of view
Take a moment to breathe before responding
Consider new ways to interact
Offer a new solution
Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:
Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place
Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction
Deal with your own stress responsibly
Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking
Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)
Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner
Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:
Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic
Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out
Start a Journal
Go for a Daily Walk
Go to Yoga or Exercise
Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session
Meditate
Start or recommit to your own personal growth
Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).
Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences
Recommit to a Spiritual Practice
Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?
If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?
What are beliefs that are making you miserable?
Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?
Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?
What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?
What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?
The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?
If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?
What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

Coaching Tip from Asttarte – Detoxing Your Life (Old Post)

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Now that we are moving into the depth of fall, lifestyles are changing. We are moving into wearing more clothes, having more time outside, and sometimes our visions of our-selves change in the process. As I contemplate this season, I feel the passion for cleansing; cleansing my body, my spirit and my home. I’m changing eating habits to cleanse the extra weight from eating foods that put on pounds and within days I’m noticing the water weight quickly leaving me. I’ve replaced sugar for stevia, coffee with flavored creams to plain organic teas, salads with heavy dressing to olive oil, and energy drinks to green tea, essential oils and flower essences. In my home I’ve donated my son’s outgrown toys and clothes, cleaned the bathtub and toilet, and purchased excellent All Natural Coconut Oil and Olive Oil for new Sessions.

Tips to Detoxify Your Life

Instead of holding grudges on people, you could:
Consider their viewpoints; contemplate another way of looking at the situation
Hold compassion for others in your mind
Be more giving.

Instead of eating the same foods the same way, you could:
Consider some foods that put weight on you (make a list of the foods that make you feel bloated, lethargic, depleted or sick)
Trust your own body and listen to your body rhythms
Consider substituting out foods for better choices
Drink more water, and less soda, coffee or juices
Replace caffeine for herbs, vitamins or vegetables

Instead of harboring anger against your children, you could:
Be more patient and understanding
Look at the situation from their point of view
Take a moment to breathe before responding
Consider new ways to interact
Offer a new solution
Consider a family adventure

Instead of blaming your partner for your relationship problems, you could:
Start looking at why you are creating the situation in the first place
Ponder what it is that you are thinking that causes their reaction
Deal with your own stress responsibly
Communicate from a place of compassion and take time away if you are upset before speaking
Look at what it is you are doing, AND not doing, and go back to your relationship agreements (if there has been no agreements made, make them)
Communicate your needs and listen to the needs of your partner
Compromise

Instead of blaming everyone else in your life for your problems, you could:
Eliminate or maintain minimal contact with certain people in your life that are toxic
Talk to a Therapist, Counselor, Healer or Coach to sort things out
Start a Journal
Go for a Daily Walk
Go to Yoga or Exercise
Get a Massage, Acupuncture, Chiropractic care, or a Spiritual/Holistic Healing Session
Meditate
Start or recommit to your own personal growth
Find friends on the same page as you (similar goals, beliefs, passions, etc).
Try Ayurveda, Aromatherapy or Flower Essences
Recommit to a Spiritual Practice
Look at yourself!

What do you do to detoxify your life?
If you’re unhappy, do you keep doing the same things, or do you consider a new approach?If your friends are making you miserable, do you keep them in your life or find new friends?
What are beliefs that are making you miserable?
Do you maintain a physically healthy diet, and if you feel lethargic or bloated, what do you do to detox?
Do you keep your home clutter free, and if there are things you want to get rid of, what will you do to remove them?
If you’re unhappy in your relationship, what will you do to make a difference?
What are new approaches you will take with your children to bring you closer?
What practices will you do over the next few weeks to relax your mind and nourish your spirits?
The next time you feel an argument coming on, will you walk away or pursue the conversation in that moment?
If your family or neighbors irk you, what will you do to harbor compassion?
What is one thing you will do over the next week to take care of YOU?

During the times of Seasons Changing, it is important to take a broad perspective and look at your whole life at large. During times of seasons changing, often also what show’s up are changes in our viewpoints, our desires, our passions and our focus. Contemplate what the summer will bring you or what it could do to cause you suffering, and change your approach so the next couple months for you are rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable!

“Unless you change how you are, you will always have what you’ve got.” Jim Rohn

Favorite Sessions Right Now!

Favorite Sessions Right Now!

Favorite Sessions Right NowAsttarte’s site is being revamped into a professional Holistic Healing Center. There are some videos that need to be done and some pages, but it is up for your viewing!

Asttarte’s Favorite Sessions Right Now are:

 Holistic Emotional Energy Therapy Sessions; a form of deep emotional healing and clearing I created on my own that is very powerful and effective.

 Transformational Life Coaching Sessions; to get complete and clear with what’s blocking you from having ANYTHING you need or desire!!!

Energy Clearing of the aura, energy field, vibrational healing for the stress, toxins and chaotic energy around the body which effects the emotional, mental and physical.

Cord Cutting for energetically clearing someone who is seriously impacting your life to be severed from your mind, and spirit at a more minimal level, or clearing the karmic relationship ties to this person from the past, so you can live free and be who you are today!

Phone Sessions of Life or Relationship Coaching, Long Distance Healing, Meditation, Spiritual Guidance and Spiritual Training.

Reiki Massage; a gentle, soothing and nurturing massage to release emotional debris, energetic debris and arouse your senses to a place of stillness, peace and love for the self again!

“One does not need to know what type of Session they want, or even what they need to heal. All they need to know is that they want to.”  Asttarte Deva

See more on energy clearing and spiritual healing at IntuitiveSoulHealings.com

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

Welcome to Asttarte’s Yoga ~ True Tantra!

ganesh-mantraHere you will find the eclectic immersion of multiple modalities, and the options that make it fit right for you! Everyone wants something different, but even more every single person needs something very different and unique to their specific situation, circumstances, beliefs, conditioning, goals, energy patterns, emotions, and available energy to what they are open to and what they are ready for.

Welcome to my new blog, and welcome to my new vision of a balanced practice and creating a balanced human being; for every one!

Namaste~

Protecting Your Sexy


You know the sayings, “Sexy is as sexy does~” and “You are who you hang around!

Well, what do you do when all of the people you hang around or the person you sleep with (or are in a relationship with for that matter) is not letting you be your sexy and is holding you down?

How long do you let the people in your life hold you back? Do you keep hanging out with the same friends, or support them to help them open up to their potential? Do you stay in a relationship with a partner who has no sex drive and try to burst their bubble and open them up to you, or do you walk?

These are questions many contemplate. The people in your life are people you care about. You want to be happy with them. You want to grow with them. You don’t want to hurt them by walking away, or yourself from having to grieve them and start the whole dating process all over again. But, do you ever question, is STAYING worth it? And, am I really being my full authentic self with this person? Will he/she EVER truly get me? How long am I willing to sacrifice my passion, my identity, my purpose?

As a VERY sexy and passionate person myself, I have asked these questions MANY times, and in the past unsuccessfully left a relationship only to be sucked back into it again. I realize the power that was lost in the process; the giving away of my own power, my own identity, and as I stand here and reclaim my true self again, it is so liberating and freeing to detach from someone who sucks the life out of you; literally!!!

But what do you do, if they try to convince you “OH, I know you love me!!!” or “Oh, hunny, we’re meant to be together!” or “Baby, I need you!” “I’m nothing without you.” or worse, if they demand you stay with them, “You HAVE to be with me.” or perhaps if they do it secretly and unknowingly by manipulating your thoughts or beliefs and try to control you. How long will you let this continue going on? At some point, the manipulation HAS to stop, and the truth WILL set you free! YOU know you HAVE to walk, and no ounce of convincing will change your mind. You are ready, you are clear, and you set yourself free! This is a battle, I like to call, Protecting Your Sexy, because as time goes by, your sexiness elopes you when you stay, and when you detach, your sexiness flies!!! Only then do you see the truth, the cycle and can finally take a stand for yourself, protect your self, and walk away!

Some relationships just don’t work, and some people in our lives are meant to be with us for a certain period of time, and when they keep holding you back from your true self, you know, the time has come!

I am here now, Protecting my own sexy! Do you care to join me in the quest?

I’ve learned some great new tools the past few weeks in Tantra, and I am available, here and would love to see you!

Here’s to your sexiness, your passion, and your life!!! Cheers!!!

www.SexBlissLifeCoach.blogspot.com Asttarte Deva

New Sessions, Welcome & New Creation!

Hello those new this site! Forgive me while this process is all its development! I am in training, presently, for Professional Coaching – as the foundation, which covers all areas of ones life, and as you can see my primary focus is Relationships, however, your Whole Life is part of that process! I’m still in the decision making process of how I want to market this: Relationship Coach who also offers Whole Life and Mentor Coaching, or Whole Life, Relationship & Mentor Coach all in one! How many people are drawn to each will give me my answer.

This includes all areas that would impact ones relationship ~ family, parenting, business, career, life, leadership, spirituality, health and wellness, intimacy and the conclusion is whole life and mentoring. I will be starting my path as an author through this process, not ending with one book, but the doorway to many!

I am looking for Sessions during this process. I am offering Sessions all done over the phone and in person! Don’t miss out  during this special time.